How do I answer the question of

Kristy - posted on 06/23/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




I have a 16 month old daughter, and since she was born my periods havent really returned! I was just recently told I had PCOS. The problem is EVERYONE keeps asking me when number two is coming along and it just gets me really down because I cant have anymore children. How do i answer this question? Has anyone else been faced with this? :'(


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Rebecca - posted on 06/23/2009




I haven't been faced with your exact problem but people keep asking me when my husband and I plan to have more and I had a lot of post-baby problems and had to be put on anti-depressents for them. I am not sure I want to go through that possibility again especially since mine is 18 months old and I am still of the prozac. I want more children but at this point I am not sure if it is a possiblitiy due to all my stress and health issues. I just tell people that one is enough right now and if god means for me to have more kids he will see to it. That usually gets them off that topic

Beth - posted on 06/23/2009




I do not have any medical issues, but I always hated when people would ask me that question. I believe to ask that is a personal invasion of privacy. It's like asking someone when they think that you will be having sex again. I would just tell them that it is none of their business.

Sara - posted on 06/23/2009




Are you sure you can't have any more children? I was diagnosed with PCOS at age 25 and I had a baby at 30 after only trying to get pregnant for 4 months. My periods are not regular either. I don't think PCOS is a death sentence to your fertility. It can make things more difficult, but I wouldn't give up all together!

Jamie - posted on 06/23/2009




I would just tell them the truth, you medically may not be able to have more. So your just letting nature take its course. If your intended to have more you will. You may need help you may not. But hope for the best and enjoy your lil one now. Mine are almost 3 and just turned 4, I cry at every birthday cause they are getting so big and i just want my cuddly babies back. Good luck to you.

Samantha - posted on 06/23/2009




Who has informed you that you cannot get pregnant? I was dianosed with PCOS 10 years ago and am happy to say that I was able to get pregnant naturally, meaning no drugs or ivf assistance. So it is possible.

I do understand the feeling of not knowing if you can get pregnant again and still having people ask you when you are going to try for number two. I tend to respond "I haven't thought about it."

If you haven't read PCOS and Your Fertility ( I recommend it. Even if you are personally choosing to not have any more children, this book does provide some great information.

Kristy - posted on 06/23/2009




Thanks, I am so greatfull for my little angel and i know im even lucky to have her (some people struggle to even get that). I do also know that there is a possibility that i could still have more children it just going to be alot harder... i guess im just having a winge, it just gets really hard when people ask me all the time and when i see everyone else around me with children the same age having more children. And then when people do ask i get all teary and then i feet stupid! thanks to everyone :) and richelle i hope you also have all the luck in being blessed with another little cherub!! xox

Richelle - posted on 06/23/2009




First of all Im very sorry you have to go through that. I have not yet been told I cant have any more children but there is a very good possiblity that I wont be able to and at 21 years old its a really hard thing to face, I dont like to talk about or think about it I wanna cry right now. People have been askin when Im gonna have another child alot lately also, I just say that I hope so, but I figure if they tell me I cant have any more and im approached with that question I think I'll just tell them that God only blessed me with one, but He blessed me with more than I could ever ask for in that one. or I might say If God permits, or I dunno ask God he controls that. Be grateful God blessed you with one at all and try to look on thr bright side. Keep your head up!

Melissa - posted on 06/23/2009




I ahave never been faced with this situation, but I would probably tell them that I can't have anymore, and why. I am sure it will get you bummed to tell them, but talking about it may help you deal with it. Holding it inside is not good. You might be surprised to find the support you need.

Carly - posted on 06/23/2009




If you don't want to give out your medical information just tell them you are done having kids. Although PCOS doesn't always equal infertillity, you just need assistance (ivf)

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I haven't been faced with this myself but possbily your best line would be to either just hit them with the truth and say that you can't have more or just say that one is enough for you, if they try to tell you to have more tell them it's just your choice as they've made their choices in the past.

Also, I'm not sure of your situation but I know a few people with PCOS and they've gone on to have a couple (if not more) children.

Hope this helps in some way xx

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