How do I bare the feeling of me not being a great mom?


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Stacey - posted on 05/17/2009




being a mum is like everything else in life its something you learn how to do. I was 19 when i had my son and l was always thinking that i wasn't a great mum but then i look at my son and i see that he is happy, healthy and full of life. Never doubt yourself as a mother as long as your baby is happy and healthy and enjoying your company then you are doing well.

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I know where you're coming from. I know you're not supposed to but I end up comparing my Son to other peoples children the same age. "Why doesn't my Son clap yet?" "Why does my Son shriek so much?" "Why isn't my Son walking" it's hard. Still I just keep reminding myself that he is his own little guy and will get to these things when he's ready.

It really hurts that he knows 4 ways to call Dad and only says Mom when he's angry and really wants something. Mom was his first word, followed by Dad, Hi, Yeah, Daddy, DaDa, DadDa. When Dad leaves the car he just watches him out the window and babbles, "Dad dad dad dada!". I know it's nothing personal but it's hard.

I'm his one and only Mom and I do my best. But I know where you're coming from.

Amanda - posted on 05/17/2009




What makes you say your not a great Mom? I sometimes feel that way and then I look at how much my daughters love me and how she wants me to hold her when she's scared and how she doesn't want me to leave her with anyone. Then I think I must be doing something right I may not do everything perfect and believe me I make a ton of mistakes but if my kids love me that much I must be doing something right. So I'm sure that even if you make some mistakes and realizing that your not perfect makes you a good Mom and also human. I'd say don't be so hard on yourself everyone makes mistakes and we all do things we know we shoudln't sometimes.

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