How do I decrease the amount of persistent whining in my 3 year old?

Lindsey - posted on 01/01/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My son is very stubborn, and the whining is relentless. Time outs, yelling, rewards, threats, you name it, we've done it. I think this might be something I have to wait out.


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Alisha - posted on 01/01/2010




I think my son is worse than my older two daughters. I felt like I could reason with them more or distract them, Dalton on the other hand not so much.

Brandi - posted on 01/01/2010




When he is whining, IGNORE HIM. I say things to myself that I know my daughter can hear like HMMM what is that sound I hear? must be the wind. Or I think someone's trying to talk to me, but I can't understand why it's so whiney. If she still isn't getting it. I tell my son (who is 2) I guess sissy doesn't REALLY want to talk to mommy, she knows I don't hear her when she whines. She usually gets the hint. If that isnt' working. I simply say to her, When you are ready to talk to me like a nice little girl come back, but until then, Go into the other room. It usually isn't long before she comes back nicely. I also NEVER give her anything when she asks me while whining. I'll say, that isn't the way we ask to get the things we want. again she usually then asks VERY POLITELY "mommy, can i have a drink of water, please. I'm very thirsty." Just be consistent and don't answer him if he's whining.

Natosha - posted on 01/01/2010




Do not give in to the whining stay firm and allow the child to act out the tantrum safely and children learn fast your child will learn to try another method I know first hand whining is the hardest thing to break

Betty - posted on 01/01/2010




This sounds mean but a great way to end the whining is to mimic him when he starts it. Make sure you are super dramatic so he knows you are making fun of him. By the end of the weekend he will be cured.

Caron - posted on 01/01/2010




my two year old is lightning tryed every thing so then stickers came on the scene and i used them to my advantage hid the stickers and started a sticker chart if she isgood and isnt silly she gets a nice big sticker the sillier (bolder) whinging is one of her things she is all day the smaller the sticker gets it took a week to click in but it worked for us still has temper tantrums and still is stubborn but getting better andalso we go to toddler goups they learn by eachother the whining is annoying alrite have an 8 year old boy it started to go around 4 but all part of it hard to get sumtin thats works as every child is different

Amy - posted on 01/01/2010




Yep to the other posters so far... I tell my son he can talk to me in a nice voice, and give him an example of how I want him to talk/the words I want him to use. It usually helps, because he knows that I won't listen unless he talks nicely.

Amy - posted on 01/01/2010




my daughter started that stuff too - just turned 3. when she whines i take her to the bathroom where there's nothing for her to really do, and tell her she can whine all she wants, but i don't care to hear it because it's rude. she started whining if she can't get something done [ie, box lid on her puzzle] and i just tell her that i don't know why she's whining, she has to TELL me what the problem is. Then she usually does and stops whining. of course she still whines, but this has really helped cut down on whine time.

Lisa - posted on 01/01/2010




Sorry to tell you, but it doesn't always get much better as they get older:) Being consistent w/whatever methods of discipline you are using, not giving in, & just being persistent in not accepting a whiny voice are the only things that could help curb the habit. I say something such as "oh my, I can't hear whining, so when you are ready to talk, let me know". Normally kids get whiny when they are frustrated, tired, hungry, or need some attention, so trying to help them identify what is going on is a plus. Label their feelings for them, tell them you can help, but need them to talk to you first, encourage them to take a break if they need to get themselves together, & follow through w/helping them. Example: "I know you are frustrated because you wanted to play w/the toy, I can't hear you as you are whining, let's go take a break in our room, & then we can figure something out." I know it is always easier said then done, but giving them words for their feelings can do wonders. Best wishes in 2010!

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