How do i find friends !?

Rachel - posted on 09/27/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Being a young mom it is hard for me to find friends that understand i cant just get up and run to the mall with them or go to parties. I have a 5 month old girl, her name is jaylee and she is the most precious thing. I would love to make friends so when i actually have a babysitter i dont have to sit around and watch my boyfriend play video games.. yuck. He has several friends he hangs out with and i envy him when he goes out and i am stuck at home with my daughter.. that sounds bad but i think you mothers know what i mean right? I need some girl time!! Anyone from the huntsville AL area or know good ways to make friends?>

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Sarah - posted on 09/27/2011

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Try visiting meetup.com! You can search for mom's groups, playgroups, etc. That's where I found the playgroup I'm involved with now. Good luck!

Sandy - posted on 09/29/2011

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take your kid to the park or other very kid oriented place; they can play and gain friends and you can talk and interact to other moms and gain some yourself.

this is how i orientated myself when i moved to alaska with my husband. i was pregnant and had a 2 year old and knew no one there. so i took my daughter out to the playground on every sunny day despite what i needed/wanted to do in the house so that she could play, interact with other kids, and also burn up some of the outrageous amounts of energy she has to make bedtime much easier, and at the same time i could visit and talk to some of the other moms that were out to try to gain some friends or at least someone to talk to when i had no one around.

Cathy - posted on 10/03/2011

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I definitely feel you on this post. I say I have no friends and it really stinks because there are times when you really need a friend to turn to and there isn't one there. Before I had my daughter I had a lot of friends but when I had my daughter I just lost connection because I didn't have the time anymore. Most of them I don't talk to anymore and the few that I still talk to either live far away or they don't have kids so they live a different life style. I don't have close friends I have what you call friend associates. We have something in common we both need a friends it's to bad we live far away from each other because we could of been friends. We can be web friends lol just to have someone to talk to. Sorry I couldn't help you better but I know exactly how you feel.

Vanessa - posted on 09/29/2011

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I would look to see if there is a MOPs group near you. Mothers of Preschoolers is an amazing resource to find friends for you and your child, as well as make lasting connections and meet people to bouce parenting ideas off of. It is extremely affordable and worth a look see. CHeck it out: www.mops.org or http://www1.mops.org/web/web_group_searc... for the direct search page. Good luck!!

Clare - posted on 09/29/2011

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Check with the hospital where your daughter was born sometimes they have a new mum's class. Great place to meet people. when i first had my 5 year old daughter i didn't know anyone. But now i have 2 close friends that i met through the new mums group

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Rebecca - posted on 10/04/2011

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i definately know how you feel. My husband and I moved and now all my family and the few friends i had are about 2 hours away. I will be 21 this month and have a 20 month old and a 3 month old and doing college online. It's hard to have time to go meet new people. generally the only time i'm not with my kids is when we are sleeping or if my husband is home and i have to run to the store for a few things. not sure how to help but i know how you feel. the few friends i had they have kids around my oldest age but one of them still wants to constantly go party instead of taking care of her son so i dont see her much just cause i don't like that shes choosing partying over her son.

Natasha - posted on 10/01/2011

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Go to baby/child groups and talk to other moms to make friends...same with parks, swimming,gymnastics, where ever you go and theres other moms around.... :)

Chrystal - posted on 09/30/2011

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I'm in New Zealand, I have a 5 year old and a nearly two year old and I'm turning 24 soon. We have something here called Plunket which is basically a monitering/advise support network for any mothers not just first time or young ones - they provide groups which use baby's age as a starting point and when I raised this issue (young single mum and noone to talk to) they told me there wa s a "young mums" group for under 30's. I'm now the young mums co-ordinator and I've met people my own age through it and also other mums also in charge of organising the other groups' meetings.

Genia - posted on 09/30/2011

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you could search meetup for a local playgroup, or see if there's a MOPS group near you (a GREAT resource for moms!). Also what about wives or girlfriends of your boyfriend's friends?

Krista - posted on 09/29/2011

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See i feel that way rachel when i do try i feel judged. Or maybe they will nice at first then thats as far as it goes. Its hard being a young mom. Im 24 with a 9 yr old and 15 month old. Get looks and hear nasty things from people all the time it hurts.all i can say is i provide for my girls i dont get any help and i chose to give them life and im so grateful for them evryday!!

Rachel - posted on 09/29/2011

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Yea i worry sometimes since i am 20 that it would be hard for other moms to except me. Guess i need to get over it and get out there like you say thanks guys for the advice!

Bridgett - posted on 09/29/2011

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It's not easy I also went thru a similiar thing. It is going to up to up to start the conversations with people. I volunteer and started selling Scentsy now people call me and that makes it nice. It's hard to be the one to always start the conversation. So get a sitter and get out. True, you may not always meet other "young"people but give everyone a chance don't focus on their age. Have fun

Samantha - posted on 09/29/2011

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hi i.m not from Al but i remember when my ex left me with my one year old daughter and I suddenly realised I had no friends or life. So I started going to mothers and tots groups. admittly I had to try quite before I found that I enjoyed going to but when I did I made loads of friends. They gave me lots of support and advise. The group also put me on a first aid course and I meet my best friend there. It is now 4 years on and we are now like sisters. Pluss I made friends by getting a part time job. Even if you did a few hours at least you can say your money is money and will help your confidence. hope its helped

Rachel - posted on 09/28/2011

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Same boat. No one in Janesville, WI is my age or has a baby my age. All their kids are 4...5...9 years old. :(

Krista - posted on 09/27/2011

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Well im not from AL im in cali but i know what you mean i have two girls and am very young as well its very hard to find good friends even friends in general. My only best friend has no kids so its hard for her to understand. Im about to be 24 and my oldest is 9 its been rough i get stared down by other moms at her school and pretty much anywhere i go people think im her sister. So if you wnat someone to atleast talk to i know i cant physically be there but if you ever want to talk feel free to email or instant message kristaluvszoie@yahoo.com

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