how do i get my 16 month old baby to start sleeping on her own again?

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Arlette - posted on 04/24/2009

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well i agree with the no toddler bed i thought of getting one for my 13 month old baby boy, but I see now that he would NEVER stay in it. He finally started falling asleep on his own i give him a bottle pray and read him a story and hes usually knocked out if not I sing a song with the night light on or inthe dark. BUT STICK with whatever plan you have and make it a routine

Candice - posted on 04/24/2009

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I would suggest putting your babies crib or bed in your room for a little while. If its a crib its easier because its a bit easier to start moving your babies crib out slowely. Leave her crib in your room for a while until you realise she is getting comfortable again. you are close, shes happy. then Start to move her more and more away out of your bedroom. Even if the crib ends up in the entrance of your bedroom door, its progress. eventually your baby will be sleeping in her own room and not feeling abandoned. Kids at 16 months are very clever, your baby knows that the constant crying is playing on your heart strings. Play some loud soothing music and dont go to the crib unless its life threatening, you cant be there everytime baby calls or crys. its going to take a lot of patience and handling the crying. When your baby gets up, put him/her back down. KEEP DOING THIS. your baby will give up eventually and realise its not so bad. What also helps is when baby is a sleep, put a blanket he/she knows well over the side of the crib wher baby peers out to look for you, this way baby wont even realise his/her surroundings away from you untill he/she wakes up the next morning. This procedure is testing, but you want your privacy too. So perservere and one little moment of spoiling will put you right back at the start. Hope this is helpfull.

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I dont ever remember readin that her child had high needs but who knows!? I have 2 very differnt children, one very damanding and needy and one very independant and yet when It came to baby and toddler life they were both the opposite, I am merely givin my opinion and just lettin ppl know that despite how ppl bring their children up etc leavin a child to cry isnt a seriously harmful thing, unless a danger to themselves...just as long as a baby knows you are there and watching them, and they not unsafe there is no harm in tryin anything to see if it works, by all means try alsorts of things, by different parent standards etc... im now pregnant with my 3rd and this child will no doubt be different from the others. But after already having 2 children, including one with disabilty and other difficulites, I know what works for me etc... I hope you figure out what is right and works for your child Eness then may you have plenty of years with an easier child...all the best x

Emma - posted on 04/24/2009

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a high needs child isn't the same as a child with learning difficulties or physical difficulties

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My child has cerebral palsy so he is very needy etc which is why i was adviced to do something like that, so i imagine for a child with CP to do something like it, then it wouldnt do anymore harm to child with no behavour probs, disabilty or learnin difficulties

Emma - posted on 04/24/2009

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As i said, every child is different. I wasn't trying to be offensive. If you have a high needs baby/child it can do them a lot of emotional harm as their needs are different.

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My advice was given to me by health pro and as long as he was checked on every so often then there was no harm what so ever, my child hasnt been harmed by this whatsoever and loves his bed more than any child i know

Emma - posted on 04/24/2009

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I know that everyone has different parenting styles but leaving your child to cry themselves to sleep for prolonged periods can be really harmful on their emotional and physical state. Every child's needs are different and it's important that you child feels you are listening to her. I'd try just being with her to give her reassurance and comfort. She may respond well to being in a toddler bed as she will have more freedom and movement. If you put a stairgate on her room then she will be safe and secure. I hope she settles soon, what ever method you use.

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the key is dont communicate either, dont speak to them or acknowledge there misbehaviour, just be persistant and it really doesnt take long x

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A baby can be left to fall asleep by herself, if she cries then just leave her, go in every 10 mins to make sure she safe etc... my eldest wouldnt go down by himself and even in his own bed until he was 4 and never stopped myself from constantly lettin him go sleep with me, i had this prob with my youngest for about 3 months from birth, so many ppl had him asleep on them includin me, which made him difficult at sleepin by himself and noddin off without aid from anyone... i left him cryin for about an hour, checkin him often, after about a week, he went by himself and omg my 21 month old loves his bed crawls to bed by himself, gets excited at bed time and have no problems at all x

Dominique - posted on 04/23/2009

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well i seen on nanny 911 that you just have to keep laying them in there bed every night if they get up put them right back in there bed, don't give in to the crying it hard and tireing but soon enough they will get the point and lay in there bed.

Rachael - posted on 04/23/2009

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We use a bedtime routine, sometime the time varies depending on her afternoon nap but in the end it is always the same. After we all have dinner we go upstairs and she gets a bath, lotion and then I nurse her and off to bed. Almost every night she is happy about getting in the bed and she snuggles down in her blanket. Even if she does start crying I close the door and leave her be and within about 10 minutes she is out. After a few minutes of quite I go back in and cover her back up. The first week or so of being in her own room was a little difficult but we kept with it and it worked. If you are going to try the toddler bed I would wait until you have a consistent bedtime routine down so that you might not have so much in and out of the bed.

Erin - posted on 04/23/2009

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I wouldn't do a toddler bed yet if i was you. I have a 21 month year old, who doesn't like bedtime. If I had her it a toodler bed, she'll never be in it.

Erin - posted on 04/23/2009

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I now this is hard to do, but put your baby in it's crib, play it's favorite CD on repeat, (say i love you, nite nite, see you in the moring), walk out and shut the door. It really works, but it does take atleast a week for your baby to get use to. Also start a bedtime routine that you do every night like....bath, lotion/pj time, and a story/cuddle/prayer time. Try it, you'll be surprised how well it works.

Be strong and good luck!!!

Jennifer - posted on 04/23/2009

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well being that she is 16 months try getting a toddler bed and making it a new thing o you have a big girl bed and wow now you have to sleep in it get some stuffed animals and tell her there her friends and they will keep her safe at night that worked for my kids.

Joanne - posted on 04/23/2009

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try laying with her until she falls asleep... if she still sleeps in a crib you can try putting her to bed in your bed and moving her to her crib.. i did that with my daughter and she eventually started to sleep on her own again... mind you once i took her out of her crib she never wnt back in to it.. i had to buy her a regual bed to sleep in.

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