How do I get my 8mnth old to stop whinning?

Frances - posted on 07/01/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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For the last month and a half EVERY time I even glance away from my son or he can't play with what he wants (the computer, silverwear, etc.,) he starts to wine which turns into a very loud yell which turns into a screach that can go on all day. Seriously it's all the time. I've been trying to ignore it, put him in his room etc. but he still goes on for ever. Is there any way to dicipline an 8 month old. Please Please help this is making it impossible to do anything and I'[d rather die than raise a spolied brat soo please help I just want my sweet boy back.

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Kylie - posted on 07/01/2009

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I have a friend with a seven month old who is dealing with a similar situation. He's a very big baby (almost double my baby's size) and if hes not being entertained constantly hes complaining/ whinging about it, hes also not a very good sleeper..he wakes every hour and stays awake for hours. They've been to different pediatricians and taken him to a sleep school where nurses have tried to teach him to sleep with CIO but it has not made any difference or come up with any solutions. His Mum is so tired and frazzleled all the time, she has a 9 and 11 year old and is trying to help run the family business from home as well. She just puts him in his baby play station or cot and lets him whinge away when she has things to do. She called me last night excited because he played happily for 20 minuets on the floor on him tummy (hes hated tummy time from day one)
I don't think you'll hurt or damage him by leaving him to fuss in his cot, it's probably more upsetting to you having to listen to him make the sounds. I think once he learns how to get around on his own he will be a happier and more contented.
Ergo baby carriers are excellent, they make baby feel as though they are being cuddled and they hold up to 40+ pounds comfortably or you can wear him on your back or hip and clean/ do ironing/ water the garden whatever with him right there. http://www.ergobabycarrier.com/ they are pretty expensive, i got one on ebay quite cheap and i love it. It must be difficult to deal with every day but it will get better, you sound like a very attentive mummy. Good luck.

Frances - posted on 07/01/2009

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I should also add that when I put him in his room he's only in there for 5mins max. I just re-read my question and it sounds like I leave him in there all day...I don't. Usually I just walk outside the door so he can't see me and come in and praise him when he stops and walk out again when he starts yelling again. I should also say he isn't crying there is never any tears just yelling and whining and he's always kept well fed, clean, rested and on schedule. For the people that are saying that something isn't right...or he's calling out because somethings wrong...it's usually not. I bend over backwards each and every moment of each and every day gladly, proudly, and with a smile on my face but lately not even that is working so I was asking for a little advice...not criticism, or opinions on my parenting just helpful kind advice like the response from Kylie.

Frances - posted on 07/01/2009

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Quoting Kylie:

at 8 months all you should do is redirect his attention..if you don't want him to play with the computer pick him up and take him away from it, talk or sing to him, show him something else of interest and he will forget the computer idea. my 7 month old has learned to make this heart wrenching cry if i take something away from him he likes or wants. I just smile, pick him up, give him a cuddle and move him to a different room or give him something he can explore safely and 5 seconds later he is content again. i am not spoiling him ..you cannot spoil a baby so dont worry:) do you have a baby carrier? he may enjoy seeing the world from your perspective and being close to you will stop the whingy sounds or perhaps he needs some new stimulation..take him outside, let him explore different textures, get him a jolly jumper etc the more he is entertained and busy the less he will feel the need to communicate in that way.



Thank you for the helpful comment. I will try to distract him more and we do always go for walks and see new things etc. I can't find a carrier or jolly jumper that can handle his size. He is almost 29lbs and over 2 and a 1/2 feet tall so he grew out of those things almost before he could use them. I understand that he is just frusturated by a variety of things, he can't crawl yet or talk and he's trying very hard to do both and he is warm (muggy summer so far) and teething has begun but honestly I can't get anything done no dishes no laundry nothing and the yelling when he doesn't get what he wants is sooo frusturating for me. I know that I can't discipline an 8month old but it's not behaviour I want to encourage either, at any age. I really appreciate the helpful suggestions. It's refreshing when moms on here actually give advice intstead of judge as I've seen alot of on this site.

Kylie - posted on 07/01/2009

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at 8 months all you should do is redirect his attention..if you don't want him to play with the computer pick him up and take him away from it, talk or sing to him, show him something else of interest and he will forget the computer idea. my 7 month old has learned to make this heart wrenching cry if i take something away from him he likes or wants. I just smile, pick him up, give him a cuddle and move him to a different room or give him something he can explore safely and 5 seconds later he is content again. i am not spoiling him ..you cannot spoil a baby so dont worry:) do you have a baby carrier? he may enjoy seeing the world from your perspective and being close to you will stop the whingy sounds or perhaps he needs some new stimulation..take him outside, let him explore different textures, get him a jolly jumper etc the more he is entertained and busy the less he will feel the need to communicate in that way.

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at 8 months he's not whining. he just can not express what he needs. I know it can get to you but remain clam... eventually he will be able to tell you what he wants or needs. Now when they can talk thats when they whine.

ANGELICA - posted on 07/01/2009

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Your baby isn't whining he is telling you something isn't right. Try different things patiently to see what's bothering him. He cannot talk remember. Crying is his form of communication. Good luck!

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