How do I get my almost two year old to listen to me?

User - posted on 06/15/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My 22 month old is constantly getting into things and when I tell her no or try to put her in time out she screams bloody murder and kicks and hits. I have no idea how to control her. I've tried doing things like getting down to her level and talking to her but she thinks its funny and continues to do whatever she wants. She is always screaming and throwing tantrums and I feel terrible when I lose patience and yell at her. How do I handle this?

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Elizabeth - posted on 06/15/2009

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The biggest thing i've learned is to always be consistant, and do what u say, so if u threaten to take something away or not do anything with her don't actually do it. When my 2 1/2 year old starts to throw a fit I very seriously look at her and tell her to stop or she will be in trouble if she does it again, i then pick her up, smack her butt (barely any thing, its more of a scare) and sit her in time out and tell her if she moves she will be in even more trouble, and then walk away, even if she yells back at me i keep walking away,u need to ignore it, ( i always stay right around the corner and spy) and if she still is throwing a fit i march back to her after a couple minutes, pick her up smack her on the butt and tell her she can sit there longer. repeat as needed. and after a few times of u actually doing it, and following thru on it it will sink in a work, it just takes time, but if u start young then they will remember when u mean business its business for life. just ignore the tantrum, and tell them they r not listening to u and will not move from spot until they can calm down and do so, be consistant

Alissa - posted on 06/15/2009

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My son is almost 3 and one thing I learned is not to give up on getting him to listen or let him do things just because it's easier. As soon as I give in and let him have a fruit snack before bed or watch one more cartoon etc, he thinks it's ok all the time and he'll throw a fit if he doesn't get his way. So then, I have to start all over to get him back into a routine. It's a great age of testing limits, but I agree with Deidre that consistency is very important! Also, sticking to a schedule (especially at bedtime) is helpful. Good luck!

Deidre - posted on 06/15/2009

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Consistency is the key! I have 3 boys, so I totally understand you. My middle son is my stubborn one who just doesnt listen. But I've found that you have to be consistent from the get go. Dont get frustrated and give up! It may take a day, two days or a week, but once she realizes you mean buisness and she cant behave like that she will get the hint. But never, use her room as punsihment/time out, because she will relate her room to being in trouble! Good Luck!

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User - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Erin:

How do I get my almost two year old to listen to me?

My 22 month old is constantly getting into things and when I tell her no or try to put her in time out she screams bloody murder and kicks and hits. I have no idea how to control her. I've tried doing things like getting down to her level and talking to her but she thinks its funny and continues to do whatever she wants. She is always screaming and throwing tantrums and I feel terrible when I lose patience and yell at her. How do I handle this?



Thanks everyone, all of your answers are great!!

Jme - posted on 06/15/2009

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Its nice too hear im not the only one. My 3 yr old is the same way. Or has been this way for the last few months although I know consistancy is key. I can give him time outs and he can end up rite back in time out for the exact same thing 10 min later. I have also noticed he is better alone with me but that new people or people he isn't as close to he pushes his luck with,,, I feel as though I don't even know him or can't predict his behavor around others. Its gotten quite embarrissing

Merideth - posted on 06/15/2009

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I don't have any advice but I feel your pain. My daughter will be 2 a week from today and nothing I try with her works. She has hit me and bit me before. She's the worst when she's tired, which I understand. But when I try to get on to her the way her pediatrician told me to she just laughs. It's like it's a big game to her. So I also would appreciate any tips. I just keep reminding myself that this too will pass. It's just a phase. Although I know it will never get any easier, just different!!

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