How do I get my boyfriends (son's grandma) mom to back off?

Karen - posted on 12/07/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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She has been a great help for the past two years and I really really appreciate her BUT like any and all moms, we do things a certain way. I'm sorry but I'm not to fond on giving my toddler sugar and sweets constantly. Sure to give him a treat every once in a while like a cookie, but his grandma does it all the time! She gives him juice and sugared tea all the time, when I want him to drink water. That's just how I am. She also feels the need to be connected in our everyday lives... and I'm kind of growing out of that type of attention. I'm ready to do things on our own, and lastly to top it all off; my son recently came down with a fever, so I missed three days of school to take care of him (I usually drop him off at her house) and finally on the fourth day, we went to go visit, because she had called and then she started insisting ME to take him to a doctor because of a little drainage cough and to check his temperature. When I already knew that everything was okay with my son. I had checked him and the cough was obviously from drainage because he had a runny nose as well. It's really irritating and i don't constantly need advise or to know what to do with my own son that i've had for TWO years now... And the worst part is, of coarse, his daddy agrees to everything his mother says. It makes me feel like no one trusts me to do my job as a mom. and BTW (She knows how I feel about all those things.)

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Sharita - posted on 12/07/2012

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Well if she volunteered, then thats cool. I try sitting down with her and explaining that you think she's amazing... But... You really want to raise your son your way. Explain it with love to her and pray for God to give you guidance. Its quite a sticky situation. Explain in a way that she can understand. How would she feel if her mother switched from helping to trying to raise her son. She should understand

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Sharita - posted on 12/07/2012

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I begin to separate myself and child from her. Which means you can't depend on her. Grandmas just like to be involved and some men think mommy knows best.

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