how do i help my children accept that thier father does not spend much time with them and never call

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Brittany - posted on 10/12/2009

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I was in your posistion, only my child was not old enough to understand or even acknowledge the situation. But, i have had many friends and family members go through the same thing. I would constantly remind them that just because he is not around does not change the fact that you love them endlessly. Also that because he is not around, that doesnt make them any worse off, or less important than anyone else. Make sure your children know that they did nothing wrong, its not their fault and that one day, maybe daddy will be better. Obviously there is something wrong with daddy because your children are a blessing and the best thing that could ever happen to a man! good luck

Melissa - posted on 10/12/2009

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No matter wat the case is make sure they kno that he loves them. One day the child will realize wats goin on and do something in his own way.

Niki - posted on 10/12/2009

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Unfortunately I have that problem as well with my oldest. You really can't do anything. I guess in time the kids will just have to see their father for the choices he's made. My daughter still puts her dad on a pedastool and she sees him maybe once a month. I have been dealing with it since she was a year and a half old. It really sucks! As long as you show your kids that you are there for them and that you love them, in time they will see that you were all they needed.

Leyda - posted on 10/12/2009

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HI JENNIFER, IN REPLY TO UR QUESTION I CAN TELL U FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE THAT THERE IS NOT MUCH U CAN DO BUT LOVE THEM TWICE AS MUCH & ALWAYS STAY HONEST W/ THEM DON'T TRY TO MAKE UP EXCUSES FOR UR EX. THEY'LL WILL GROW UP TO REALIZE AND SEE THINGS FOR THEMSELFS. JUST BE HONEST TO THEM AT ALL TIMES AND REASSURE THEM THAT U WILL NEVER LEAVE THEM.

User - posted on 10/12/2009

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I HAD THAT ISSUE AS WELL....I STOPPED TRYING TO MAKE WILLIAM UNDERSTAND I JUST LET HIM OBSERVE AND HE FINALLY GOT TO THE POINT WHERE HE SAW IT FOR HIMSELF...HE TOLD HIS DAD HOW HE FELT AND NOW HE CALLS HIM EVERYDAY....4 YEARS OF WORK FINALLY PAID OFF

Holly - posted on 10/12/2009

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Man that's hard. Is he busy or does he choose not to be with them? If he's busy working, assure them its for their benefit, because daddy has to work to help them stay healthy by providing food and a house...if its his choice not to be part of their lives, depending on your relationship I'd tell them Mama thought she made a good choice in picking out their Dad but someone better is hoping to find us soon and give us really good love and attention. We just have to give them time to come into our lives. Not sure how your relationship is with their dad, or the ages of your kids though, so I don't know if my advice helped. Good luck.

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