How do i know if i'm ready for another baby?

Hillary - posted on 12/21/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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So i'm getting ready to get married to my daughters father. she turned 2 sept. 21. & we have talked about another baby but i cant decide if i really want another one or now. How do i know if i am really ready or not. cuz one day i do and the next i dont. Help

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Jessica - posted on 07/12/2013

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ive been a single mom for almost two years and i recently do have a boyfriend. we have been dating for 2 months now and he wants a baby, but i want to finish school. would it be too soon if i was to get pregnant?

Daniele - posted on 12/21/2009

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When you consider having another baby don't just take into consideration your emotions on it, take a look at everything. Look into your finances, your work life, your relationship and your life. Are you ready to have sleepless night again when you bring home that bundle of joy? Can you relationship handle the stress of having 2 kids? Everything has to be considered. But most importantly if you are in anyway unsure don't try because if you regret your decision your relationship will be under stress and after the baby is born you will take it out on them.

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Sara - posted on 12/23/2009

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my first is only 4 months and me and my bf are not married or even engaged yet... but between not wanting to get married while I'm pg, trying to buy a house and move b4 this one starts school, and dealing with raising just the one... idk how I'm gonna fig this out myself. I def won't do it until Chloe is potty trained, but I don't want the kids to be too far apart in age because I grew up a very lonely only child and want my kids to be close. But like EVERYONE will tell you with the first one... you NEVER really READY.

Alexis - posted on 12/23/2009

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im with janet its hard at first... Two kids in dipars and no sleep but the future is what i thought of.. some one to talk to share their secerts with and helping each other out. i suggest that you two talk about what is best for both of you at this point.

Janet - posted on 12/22/2009

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Well, I think you should consider whether all the fecets of your life( finance, daughter, husband, you...) are ready for a baby. I have a 17 month old and a 2 month old and it is a strain on everything to have two young children. I didn't get much sleep untill the past week when the baby started sleeping more at night, and I my husband and I argue more it seems. But I love it! I know that my two girls will be very close as my sister and I are. And though it is hard for the first little while, it gets better each day.

If you want to have more then one child it won't be the end of the world if you start now, or if you wait awhile. Good luck and Have Fun!

Patrice - posted on 12/22/2009

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Quoting Teresa:

Wait till your first child is 4 cause she's entering the terrible twos stage and age three is even worse so I would give her time to get through those stages first it will be easier for you and her TRUST ME!! the less stress the better


I wish I would have known about that when it comes to age. Well actually, doctors prefer children to be at least 3 years apart (not disreguarding your answer) because it takes your body 2 years to naturally go back to pre-pregnancy status. I have girls 3 years apart and I find it challenging and easy. Easy in a sense that I only have to worry about 1 set of diapers and I have a little helper. Challenging in the sense that the 3 year old demmands attention and regressed in the begining. I also still have to help in the potty and preparing food.

Ellen - posted on 12/21/2009

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I've heard that if you are not sure if you are done having kids that you probably aren't. Doesn't mean that you have to have one right away, but when you feel ready for another baby. (Remember that it takes nine months until baby comes, so you will have time to adjust mentally). For me, I wouldn't change having two for anything, they have each other! It was important for me that my kids have a sibling!

Nakeia - posted on 12/21/2009

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wow that is hard because i am married and i think that samething but what is important is if your ready for two if your having mixed feelings now that mean that your not ready. Cause with one its easier to find a babysittier with two it is harder but, dont think of it as are you ready that of it as are we ready because if he has a hand in with the kids 100% then go for it!

Teresa - posted on 12/21/2009

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Wait till your first child is 4 cause she's entering the terrible twos stage and age three is even worse so I would give her time to get through those stages first it will be easier for you and her TRUST ME!! the less stress the better

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