How do I trust my man again?

Heather - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




The father of my children and I divorced. I found out he had cheated on me and fell out of love with me. We recently got back together and he says he has feelings for me and wants to get the love back. I love him and want things to work but I have a hard time trusting him ,I worry everyday about what hes doing. What can I do to put my mind at ease so I dont mess this up? Is it possible for someone to fall back in love with someone they fell out of love with?


Rochelle - posted on 10/05/2009




Trust is a hard thing to earn back. I went through the same thing you are going through. It is only going to work if he is willing to cooperate and know that you need this peace of mind. As far as falling back in love. Try the Love Dare. You can buy the book anywhere. It is a 40 day dare that you can go through together or alone. There are different dares each day and things to read to help you through. There is a website you can go to to get support and counseling from the creators of the love dare. Good luck and god bless!

Jamie - posted on 10/05/2009




Trust isnt something you get, its something you earn. Its gonna take time for him to earn your trust. And yes I think you can rekindle your love, but it will take work, maybe some counseling?


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Melissa - posted on 10/05/2009




I'm not trying to be negative, but you will probably not trust again for a long time. That is not necessarily a bad thing, as long as you do not become overbearing and controlling. You can't just start trusting again and he can't expect that anything he says will make you. You are just trying not to get hurt again. If he is willing to go through this unknown time frame of you being on high alert, then it's worth it. Yes, you can fall back in love, but it takes time and a lot of effort. Don't blame yourself for things, especially cheating. Good luck to you and your family!

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