How do u know if u are ready for another baby.

Sharda - posted on 12/23/2008 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My son is 3 and he is the only child. He doesnt have any 1 to play with and somethimes i feel like he is lonely.He always saying that he wants a sister. i am i the only 1 going through this i really need some advice!

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Monique Marie - posted on 11/24/2012

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if u have any friends that have kids then they can go to your place or u go to there place to have fun

Kaleena - posted on 12/27/2008

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It might be a good idea to make sure your son understands that if you do get pregnant, it could make a brother instead of a sister. I've seen kids get angry when they wanted a brother/sister and it ended up to be the "wrong" one.

Denise - posted on 12/25/2008

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I felt the same way with my daughter low and behold jordan is 3 and jenna is now 1 I am very glad I had my second and didn't wait too long . I am finished with having anymore but I'm so happy for the 2 i have.

Leonie - posted on 12/25/2008

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ive got 5 my eldest are 12 months and 13 days apart and my youngest 2 are 12 months apart also i say wen u think it feels right then it does

Sharda - posted on 12/25/2008

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Thanks for the advice that everyone has sent me. it really gave me alot to think about.

Ashley - posted on 12/25/2008

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u know ur ready when u want another one , if u are ready then u will know and if the kid wants another sibling sounds like a good thing to me .and if u are in a stable position .

Lauren - posted on 12/25/2008

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It's a tough call. I know that I am ready for another baby, I wanted to be pregnant by my birthday in may. My son is now 15 months, so he would be two by the time a second child was born. The reality of the situation is that his father and I's relationship is no more as of this past October.
Being a newly-single mom with an extremely tight budget changes my new baby plans to NO new baby plans anytime soon. I don't want him to be an only child (I was, and it was fine.) But, our life doesn't accommodate a new member of the family right now, and it will probably be this way for a few years even if he wants a new sibling. Lol! Best wishes to you.

Brooke - posted on 12/24/2008

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I would say only you would know if you are ready for a new baby. I have two that are 18 months apart and are very close, ages 5 and almost 4. I also have a 9 month old. The two older ones are wonderful with her. If you are not sure about having another one right now a great idea is for you to send your son to a preschool or play group. My two older ones have gone to preschool and loved it.

Jennifer - posted on 12/24/2008

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You need to have another baby when you want one! Don't have another child just because your one and only wants someone to play with. Do you feel as though you would like another one? When you hold another baby, does it make you want to have one of your own? Are you financially secure for another baby?

Sherilyn - posted on 12/24/2008

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I would totally wait until you are ready to have another child. It's great to have someone that your son can grow up with but when the time is right that will happen Don't rush it though! Enjoy the time with you and your son and get him involoved with lots of other kids his age that way he doesn't feel so lonely. Until the second child happens enjoy just having one casue life goes by so much quicker after that second one comes!

Kathy - posted on 12/24/2008

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Meet other moms with children! If YOU are not ready for another, then don't just have one to give your son a playmater, which wouldn't happen for a few years anyways.



My husband and I are waiting until our daughter is 3-4 to try again.

Dee - posted on 12/24/2008

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Only you should know if you are ready for another baby, dont just have one to keep your son company, although I loved growing up with my two sisters there is loads of children out there who grow up the only child. Just ensure you take him to groups or nurseries or somewhere he can socialise with other children and make friends so friends come over and play. My Daughter is just over 7 Months old and I am pregnant again, I chose to have another child straight away and to have the baby stage out the way in one go, my children will be 12 months and 2 days apart if she is born on the correct date, so my little girl will have a very close sister, but we are having no more. It is totally up to you and how you and your partner feel! Hope that helped !?! :o)

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Well it is a very personal question. I waited 2 years and 9 months inbetween each child. Looking back I wish i would have had them closer together. If you feel you are not ready for one, and wish for him to have friends, try going to the play groups or library groups in your area. Good luck and prayers for your decision.

User - posted on 12/23/2008

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I feel it a personal question I have 4 children the old two only 18 month apart it is great to see them play and grow together and they get on because they are so close in age I feel if you are ready for another child go ahead

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