how do you????

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Here's the sinario. i was with this guy and we ended up getting pregnant. he decided to ask me out and i said yes. i liked him very much. a few months after we had started dating i was talking to him and ended up getting an inapropreate text from him that had nothing to do with the convo we were having. he explain that a girl he knows was having trouble with a male friend of hers at the bar and he had helped her out by pretending to be her bf. ok i understand the situation and dropped it. i was upset about it of course regardless. i didn't trust him much after that and i ended up going through his phone to see if he was really cheating on me i found a different girl had texted him in an inapropreate mannor i tried to talk to him about this but he got mad and your just ignore me or walk away. shortly after this we had moved in together and started getting ready for our baby. i decided to ignore what had happened since he was wanting me to move in with him and have a family together. after i had out daughter he had left his phone at home and i noticed it and decieded to see if girls were still talking to him like that. i didn't see and texts like that so i was really happen and relived that it wasn't happening however i went through his pictures and saw a topless pic of a girl he was after a few years before him and i had hooked up. i called him at the place he was and told him we were done. i hung up on him and proceeded to pack up our daughter and bags for us and was going to go to my parents but he had come home before i could leave and was wanting to know what was going on so i told him what i had found and he wanted me to stay and work things out so i did he didn't change and still did nothing around the house and he only works 3 days a week he constantly had friends over and i was constantly cleaning up after then while he sat and did nothing he did do stuff with our daughter like feed her and change her dipper and all that stuff but i was stuck doing everything else i was also having post pardom depression and issues with what girls were texting him. we have been broken up for a couple years now and he gives me the look that he use to when we just started dating and stairs at me if we bump into each other on the street. how am i to take this and what is he trying to do?

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thats kinda what we've been doing is keeping it to our daughter but it usually ends up with me and him joking around and laughing then evenually a fight. he can be very nice its not that he's a full out dick its just that i don't think he realizes things are different now that we aren't together. i kinda am too sorry that i have to deal with him but maybe if he can acually see whats going on then he'll change his attitude. it probably wont happen but one can hope.

Deidre - posted on 04/19/2009

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yea, I saw that in another post. You have no need for that kind of drama and that is all it will be... being emotionally involved with him and his new family will most likely just create unnecessary drama (which from what you posted seems to be what would happen). I'm not saying keep him from your daughter but, let it be known that you don't want to deal with any of his emotions and just to keep your convos together about your daughter and her only.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with him :(

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i know you ment it in a good why sorry if there was some miss iterpitation with that. ya which he does confuse me with what he does. i do believe i didn't mention in my story that he now has a new gf and another baby on the way

Deidre - posted on 04/19/2009

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He may still like you, but that doesn't mean he deserves you or that you have to give him another chance. People like people all the time and nothing comes of it. Doing what is best for you and your daughter is what matters and if he can't do that then there is no need to be with him (as made apparent by his history, he isn't good enough for you). I didn't mean care for your daughter in a bad way, just meant to focus on her instead of him when you think about him 'in that way' because that will only lead to confusion.

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i am caring for my daughter regardless of what he's doing. your the first person to say hes just messing around. my friends say he still likes you and hes just playing hard to get. thanks so much for the advise i think maybe i should do that and not take what hes doing as a sign of what my friends are saying

Deidre - posted on 04/18/2009

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He is messing with your heart sweetie, even if he doesn't mean to, you don't need that. Try your hardest to ignore all those stupid lovey-dovey signals he sends your way and just care for your daughter and your own well-being. I can just imagine how much harder that is to do but I definitely think it is for the best for your health mentally and physically as he was such an ass before.

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