How do you cope with depression while pregnant

Tanya - posted on 05/16/2014 ( 12 moms have responded )

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so I am 20 and currently pregnant with my second child , I'm bearly at 10 weeks. I've been extremely emotional since I found out I was pregnant. It is even more difficult because I live with my parents still and the father of my children is currently out of my life. We were engaged for one month before i dumped him except I felt a little pressured to break up with him. He said hurtful unforgiving things to me and my parents that the cops were called. idk how I find myself crying over him every night. Anyways I'm having a hard time dealing with my depression. I cry every day, I'm overly exaughsted running after my 2 year old all day, I don't have an appetite like I use to I'm just naseous all day. I try to force myself to eat something for the baby but it's so hard. I don't know how to deal with all this.
I'm mostly venting, I don't have many friends to go to. I would love any help or advice.

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Tanya - posted on 05/21/2014

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LOL! Parents are always right...LOL.. you soon will be telling your children that ;-)

Don't be nervous, try to enjoy your pregnancy and baby now!

He'll get over it eventually!

Good luck!

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Tanya - posted on 05/21/2014

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Thank you for your advice and help. I really appreciate it. It's helpful hearing from someone else than my parents telling me he's no good for me or the kids.. I'm just a nervous wreck!
Thanks again for the help.

Tanya - posted on 05/21/2014

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No hope for the relationship... anyway I wouldn't date this guy...always high, that's a huge no-no for me. You're 20! Don't worry you'll meet someone, just raise the children and love will come.

As for the children... they are his as well. You kind of have to let him see them.

Tanya - posted on 05/20/2014

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So you think there is no hope to reconcile our relationship. Do you keeping the kids away from him?

Tanya - posted on 05/20/2014

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Okay,

I'm really sorry to say this...but I think you should just leave him...he sounds like a real deadbeat. Good ridden that he's out.

Have your baby and take care of your son. You have your family to help.

You're so young it would be ashamed to marry this guy to be divorced...because it will end like that. Once a cheater always a cheater. And you have his child and are pregnant.. it's despicable...

Tanya - posted on 05/20/2014

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I know this whole situation is messy :( and it sucks being so hormonal and not knowing what to do.

Tanya - posted on 05/20/2014

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Our fight before all this happened was because I caught him cheating. So I went back home with my son and he's trying to get mad at me because I caught him. He was telling me to give him all the money we had saved which wasn't even very much, just a couple hundred, and I don't care about the money so I would of been more than happy to give it to him. But the police told me to put it in an account for my son. Then my ex was saying that he was coming to get our son. Which he always threats to take him away from me for example to Mexico he has threatened before. And the reason I don't let him take his son everywhere he wants is because he's always high off marijuana, he would play it off but I could tell right away. And I had noticed he wasn't interacting with our son he would just sleep on the couch or bed whenever we were together. And when I left him for cheating he explained his reason for not playing with our son was because he was taking pills. So I don't trust him with our son alone.

Tanya - posted on 05/20/2014

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Okay, so you kind of created this entire situation...lol...Now you have to fix it!

Talk to your parents and your boyfriend.

Maybe have your boyfriend email or write them a letter, saying how sorry he is and that he was acting irrational. Because your dad is not obligated to answer to him at all.

However, you have children together and you should have never ignored him... I would have done that if I didn't have children but not once children are involved.

Tanya - posted on 05/20/2014

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Well the reason he was saying that about my dad was because I wasn't responding to any of his calls or messages, due to previous arguing, (making him get pissed off at everything and everyone) and every time he showed up at the house my mom called the cops. And so he was calling my dad, excuse my language, a pussy for not coming out like a man to talk to him. And the next day he was threatening g my dad to me saying he was gunna hurt him if I didn't let him see our son. And that's when I was the one who called the cops that time.
But idk I'm thinking of my kids first. I don't want them around someone who is being aggressive and making irrational threats.

Tanya - posted on 05/20/2014

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Why did he say he wanted to hurt your dad?

It's hard to live with your spouse/boyfriend and your family. Maybe you can speak to your parents about what happened. I think you did the right thing though he should have never threaten you father.

Maybe your parents know better than you...I mean your only 20 and they may see things that you do not yet.

Tanya - posted on 05/19/2014

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I think their could be potential to get back together. However, I feel like my parents will diss own me and kick me out if I get back with him. I just don't think they understand my feelings because he is the father of my children and I do love him, we were planning on getting married before the new baby came. But everything changed when he was saying he wanted to hurt my dad. This is why I got cops involved. It's been a month since then and he's keeps apologizing and saying he would never do that he was just angry at the moment.
I feel angry with myself because I should dislike him for saying that about my dad. And I know people say dumb things when their mad. But I don't know. Is this just another major bump in the road that I can work out?

Tanya - posted on 05/17/2014

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Why did you two separate? Is there potential to get back together?

I can imagine what you are going through. Having a 2 year old and pregnant can be extremely demanding when you are not dealing with issues...it's normal to feel the way you do but let's talk and see what we can do to make you feel better.

Either way if you have to do this alone, you can do it! You have your family by your side.

Try to eat healthy for the baby. I know it's hard, I cannot eat either when I am down.

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