How do you deal make the older child understand that discipline for her is different?

Carrie - posted on 10/02/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My older daughter is nine and the younger one is two. My older one says it's not fair because the younger one doesn't get the same punishment as her.


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Kathy - posted on 10/02/2009




I agree with both postings! Older children have more responsibilities and get to do more things. Just explain to the older child all the cool things they get to do to be positive and then explain why they receive a different punishment. I usually tell her that she is older and needs to set a good example for her sisters and that she should know better than to do things like that (usually because she has been told before).

Lindsay - posted on 10/02/2009




I agree with Andrea. Luckily, my kids are very close in age so they do recieve the same discipline but I would just explain that when the other sibling is that age, they will get the discipline she is currently getting. Also remind her of the things she's able to do and the other child isn't. She's old enough to understand! =)

Andrea - posted on 10/02/2009




I had the same issue with my oldest, and I said to him that if he wanted to be treated the same way as his younger siblings that was fine, but that would mean that he would also have the same rules, as in having naps, way earlier bed time, and he wouldn't be able to go to his friends houses anymore, etc, that changed in a quick hurry, he realised that there was different discipline but that he also had alot more priveleges too. Good Luck!

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