How do you deal with a miscarraige?

Rhea - posted on 07/27/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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i recently found out that i was pregnant with my second child and was so thrilled because just a few days prior my three yr old son asked for a baby sister so i was thinking great good timing. everything was going fine until the Wednesday before my scheduled doctor visit on Saturday the 13th July. I started bleeding i could not believe it so i made an appointment and went to the doctor only to find out i was having a miscarriage and by Friday i was not even pregnant anymore. Every day i wonder what went wrong was it something i did or didn't do. Although i was just six weeks pregnant i really miss my baby and this is a bit hard for me to deal with i think about it every day. Does anyone have any advice they can give. And how do i get my body healthy so that we can try again and not have it happen a second time.

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Phuthela - posted on 07/28/2013

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There is no step-by-step guide as to how to deal with it. You just take it one day at a time. No-one expects you to be strong: allow yourself to grieve, it's part of the process. One day you will be at a stage where you would have accepted what happened.

Its important to talk about it as well, like you're doing now. It will help you to cope emotionally. Perhaps a journal will help: keeping track of your emotions will help you put things into perspective.

Lastly, it happens to the best of us: you will be fine.

Michelle - posted on 07/27/2013

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I miscarried my first at 11 weeks. I was so upset and then fell pregnant again 3 months later. I stressed so much with that pregnancy but the doctors were great and I have since had 3 healthy babies.
This was almost 13 years ago and I still think about the baby I never had. You don't get over it but you learn to carry on and live with who you have in your life.
Make sure you give yourself some time to grieve before trying again and eat healthy and take your pregnancy vitamins to get your body back into shape.
Most of the time doctors don't know why a miscarriage has happened and it doesn't mean that you'll never have another child.

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Rhea - posted on 08/09/2013

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Hi Leslie i am really sorry for your lost i know how you feel. But i really concerned about this bleeding you need to go and get a ultra sound and make sure that everything is out and find out from your gynecologist why you are still bleeding.He would be able to help you and if you have to go to a private office instead of the hospital better for you.

Leslie - posted on 08/07/2013

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Hi ,sry for your loss.
I had a m/c 4 wks ago @ wut i thought was8 wks preg. Docs n hospital could nvr see anything at any point with sono or trans vag sono. I had bleeding only at wiping a dark tone to it i went in to the hospital that first night they said it was a threatend m/c then my first doc appt was the 15 th i bled (very lightly) two more days,i did hv several blood tests to chk my levels every two days since my first appt n two more trans vag sonos by the last trans vag almost a wk latr i hadnt had any bleeding at all for three days but my levels were only slowly increasing n finally with the last blood wrk had slightly gone down so they told me that was my m/c. A wk latr i stard bleeding again very heavily with lots, of really big clots n bad cramping on the third day i felt something about three times the size come, out it was a lil sack and i havent stopped bleeding heavily since,its now 8-7-13. Ive had a hectic schedule so im not sure if i feel lightheaded due to my sleeping habits these past two wks or if something is really wrong and im not even sure if my doc would have an answer since im bleeding they wont see me for a pap to make sure things are ok .its just a waiting game i guess. My partner is anxious to try again(but more concerned for my health he wants answers as to y im bleeding so long n heav i tell him evryone is different) it would have been his first bby he was a lil shocked it wasnt planned but he realized he does want choldre of his own.
Thankful we have my two yr old boy.
And thankful i have him , they are how i cope and get thru im also goin to plant something to make my peace.

Dodo1986 - posted on 08/06/2013

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I had a misarriage in june 2013 , i was in week 17 i was totally shocked after knowing that the baby' s heart beats stopped an that was 10 days before knowing that he's dead. I scheduled an appointment at the hospital ans after everything was over i was very down and depressed . It took me some time to recover specialy i have a son 3 years and i didnt experience any problems throughout my pregnancy. My doctor asked me to do the miscarriage checkups and he told me these check ups will def. have the reason of my miscarraig when i had the results i found out i had nlood clottings and that wa the reason and my doctor told me to take jasprin from now on and when i get pregnant i will take injections to stop the clottings. That was surprising and shocking!!!!

Jen - posted on 08/02/2013

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This is important so please pay attention. Modern junk food, chemicals, GMO's (genetically modified ingredients), plastics, and pharmaceuticals can all cause miscarriage. I would HIGHLY suggest you get a water filtration system and only drink purified water, switch to a completely organic diet, avoid pharmaceuticals and vaccines for at least one year before trying to get pregnant. God bless,

Jen

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I have never been pregnant but I have been trying for many years. My heart goes out to you! Stay strong sweetie. Turn to your husband all it can do is strengthen your marriage!

Kirsty - posted on 07/30/2013

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I have had 3 miscarriages I found it extremely hard but talking really does.help I had my daughter then lost 3 then had a healthy baby boy try and stay strong hun all will work.out fine I still think about it after 2 years but it does get easier good for the future xxx

Gena - posted on 07/30/2013

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I found it very helpfull to talk to my husband,our first misscarage was in the 8week.I felt very upset and then the doctor told me that it just didnt meen to be.That was over 3years ago and sometimes my husband and i still talk about it. We have a healthy son now but sometimes i think aw,he would have an older sister or brother.I know its upsetting.Try talk to your husband if he is ok with talking about it.

Rhea - posted on 07/29/2013

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thanks so much for your advice Michelle and Phuthela i would surely try my best to deal with this situation in a positive way and keep track of my emotions.

Thanks a lot ladies.

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