How do you deal with temper tantrums w/o spanking when time outs don't work??


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Eileen - posted on 09/16/2009




I take a pleasure off them!!!! example: if my son doesnt behave after a time out the tv is turned off for the remainder of the day !!!! he loves his cartoons!!!! Actually my friend whos son used to hav frequent temper tantrums got rid of all junk food including fizzy drinks etc.. she found the change in his behaviour amazing!!!!

Tara - posted on 09/12/2009




I have a two year old and while I'm not opposed to spanking or at her age swatting, I rarely have to do that because when she's doing wrong I'll tell her no (or whatever directive) twice, then I go to where she is and hold both of her hands and get down on her level and try to look her in the face and tell her in a calm voice that she cannot do that. I then try to distract her her with annother activity and if I do have to put her in time out I keep putting her back until she gets it. I personally reserve swatting or "spanking" for when she is doing something that would really hurt her and she doent get the point.

Stephanie - posted on 09/12/2009




well beleive it or not there is something called abc 123 its a book that tells you things you can do to help with things like this, i used it with my children and was shocked at how well it has worked... what has worked for me is having a special chair or spot for time outs if my kids would get out i'd put them right back in there and keep going til the stayed there to start there time out... a dr is the one that gave me a copy of that book and at first i laughed at him asking ( at that time) how am i going to get my 3 yr old to listen to this but i sat down and read it and started doing what the book said ... and within a wk i saw the improvment not only in my kids but myself on being a parent

Amanda - posted on 09/12/2009




I give them what they want. LOL just kidding. I watch supernanny, I think she's great. She has alot of great ideas, like the point system, time outs, and taking things away. Which have worked out really good with my kids. I use the point system with a small reward so they have something to look forward to.

Brittany - posted on 09/12/2009




Yes but then again if i do the time out thing or just walk away it usually gets worse..My son is 3 almost 4 and he knows right from wrong especially when you explain it to him but continues doing it. I get frustrated with the things that I have tried ex. what both of you said and neither work....any other suggestions?

Katelynne - posted on 09/12/2009




with my 16 month old... she understands a time out, and that she's "in trouble" or basically did something she should if we put her in her crib for a little while in her room and leave her alone. she gets over it and is fine in no time. she's the type that will bang her head on the floor or hit her head with her hands when that starts to the crib she'll go. and usually i only have to do it once or twice before she gets it completely

Manda - posted on 09/12/2009




depending on the situation different things may work... for very young children sometimes you just have to walk away and ignor it, because they really dont understand time outs. it depends on where you are too, because if your out in public you cant really just walk away with out your child, but at home you could go into the next room.

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