How do you disapline your child? Say for a 3-4 year old...

Jennifer - posted on 06/09/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Amber is 3 soon to be 4 and she treats me like crap. She screams, hits, throws things, anything you could imagine...how should I deal with it? Spank her? Send her to her room? Ignore it? HELP!!!

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Amanda - posted on 06/09/2009

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I redirect my little girl. She just turned 4 in March. She wants attention and so I give her little jobs to do. I make her feel big and important. We spend more quality time together when i give her jobs. When I am folding clothes she folds washcloths and socks. When I do dishes she puts the forks and spoons in the dish washer. so on and so on I make sure that she always has something to do when I am doing something. She has fun and learns as well. If she keeps fitting and really throws a fit then her little job is taken away. That really makes her rethink her fit.

Lindsay - posted on 06/09/2009

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Whatever you do don't ignore it. Do not let her get away with the mean things she does. With my son he is currently four. He gets mad he swings at me. I am a firm believer in spanking. Its an attention getter and they realise what just happened here. I also use his toys as punishment. He once lost his favorite trucks for two days because he kept hitting me. I didn't put up with it. Find you discipline that works. Time out for 3-4 minutes and then ask what did you do wrong. Use the rewards jar. There are a million things if all else fails read anything you can find. I had to. Good luck let me know how everything goes and if I can help anymore.

Janice - posted on 06/09/2009

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My biggest suggestion would be consistant. Between me and my husband I am the bad guy. But my son loves me and gives me hugs and kisses all the time because even though he is 2 years 7 months I need him to listen. I have found that yelling back, spanking, etc juast does not work he is also testing his boundries. So I never tell him I will do something unless I am willing to do it, that way he knows that when I say you will lose that toy or I will hold your hand untill you do as I say he knows that I will do it. You must be willing to follow through on what you say or your child will never respect you and will continue to miss behave. But be carefull if you can't think of something to say as a punishment just say you will not like what I come up with, because sometimes we just need to walk away first and calm down befor enforcing any punishment. weath it be time out or I hold my sons hand in stores and make him walk with me when he acts up.

Jackie - posted on 06/09/2009

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i put my 2 yr old in time out since he was 1. every once in a while he gets spanked.but when he really looses it, i sit him down and get down to his level and calmly tell him that that behavior is not nice, make him say sorry and still put him in time out. i tell him to let me know when he's ready to behave like a good boy. that usually works. if she's already that worked up, spanking her isn't going to work, it just teaches her when she's mad that's how she should react.

Jennifer - posted on 06/09/2009

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I have tried, taking thing away, spanking, yelling, even taking her to the doctors because I thought maybe she had ADHD...nothing helps. She is wanting attention and even if I try spending one on one time with her, she always wants more!!! She has been pulling on her 6 mo. old baby brothers arms and such and I'm afraid that she will one day really hurt him. I caught her twice putting a blanket over his head!!! What do I do before it goes too far and something terrible happens???

Danielle - posted on 06/09/2009

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just stick with it and keep going they do that on the nanny shows too but e\you cant give up or give in just keep sticking with it it should work eventually if not maby get the chikld annelized i know sounds bad but at least your trying to help the problem if that doesnt sound good to you just dont take my advice id hate it if some one told me to try that wity my child.. but maby just maby he has issues he doesnt kno how to deal withy..

Heidi - posted on 06/09/2009

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i've also got the same problem with my 3 year old. but the thing is, everything i see on nanny 911, it don't work with him. take toys away, corner, spanking, nothing works...he's getting to where he'll demand a toy and then scream 'gimme my car right now!' so can ya'll help ME out???

Sharon - posted on 06/09/2009

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It depends on what works- We started telling our son "No!" when he was about 6 months old. But when the terrible two's came along we began timeout (didn't work for us), then we tried spanking but he laughs at you and makes you even more angry, sending a child to the room is not the best thing because their bedroom is supposed to be a haven for them and not a punishment area. You might want to the think about taking toys from her and try timeout- Check out Super Nanny's book she is great with this kind of advice.

Sharon - posted on 06/09/2009

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It depends on what works- We started telling our son "No!" when he was about 6 months old. But when the terrible two's came along we began timeout (didn't work for us), then we tried spanking but he laughs at you and makes you even more angry, sending a child to the room is not the best thing because their bedroom is supposed to be a haven for them and not a punishment area. You might want to the think about taking toys from her and try timeout- Check out Super Nanny's book she is great with this kind of advice.

Danielle - posted on 06/09/2009

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get a chair pu and put her on a time out explain why she is there and leave her for three minutes if she get off the chair before time is up simply but her back on teh chair and start over till she stays for the full three minutes long and gruelling prossess but it works

Kylie - posted on 06/09/2009

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hi we have found that the noughty corner works with our 4 year old we pit her in the corner for 4 minute (to match her age) and the time starts when she is quite.

the we have a talk about why she was in the corner it seems to work for us but you have to presist. 3-4 year old like to push bounderys so you have to stick by your self and not give in and it is very hard but trust me it all pay off in the end. hope his helps

Ellimelyn - posted on 06/09/2009

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u have to let her understand everytime u tok ti her so that in ur own lil way she'll understand...dats normal for her age coz i also have a 3 year old son....sumtyms i loose temper and tell him things like....if ul do this to me again mommy won't give u a star...and suddenly gets mad and after awhile he'll go near and kiss me....and i know he understands me for that....

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