How do you get a father more involved with out sacraficing your time with your son.

Megan - posted on 06/12/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am a single mom of a 2 1/2 year old boy. I have been on his dad for the last 2 years to take him more than every other weekend. I am curious if any one is in a simalar situation and knows how to get his dad to take him more with out sacraficing my time with him.



Right now he wants to take him three weekends a month for the summer but I am sacraficing my time off with him so he can spend it with his dad.



last summer I tried to get him to take him for a whole week may, june, july, and august but his big excuse is he can't afford day care. but i feel that if he really wanted to take jaydon and spend extra time with him he would find a way to pay for daycare.



Thanks for any advice any of you can give me.

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Ashley - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

unfortunately he has to come to the conclusion for himself that he wants to spend more time with Jaydon. I am sharing custody with my daughter's father and even now that she is 7 years old I still have to get him to take her. His mother is always more than willing but, with him it seems like she comes second to his fiance and everything else in his life it breaks my heart...but, I guess my advice would be enjoy ur time with him...make him feel like he is all that matters and if his father does come around make sure jaydon is aware that his father has a place too. It really sucks being a single mom my heart goes out to u but, remember anyone can be a father but, it takes a real man to be a dad....


Exactly right. My son is 2 1/2 as well and his father has almost nothing to do with him. It's like pulling teeth to even get him to call. The truth is...you can only tell him so many times. I just let my son know how much I love him every day and don't let him see the battles between his father and myself.

Jessica - posted on 06/12/2009

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unfortunately he has to come to the conclusion for himself that he wants to spend more time with Jaydon. I am sharing custody with my daughter's father and even now that she is 7 years old I still have to get him to take her. His mother is always more than willing but, with him it seems like she comes second to his fiance and everything else in his life it breaks my heart...but, I guess my advice would be enjoy ur time with him...make him feel like he is all that matters and if his father does come around make sure jaydon is aware that his father has a place too. It really sucks being a single mom my heart goes out to u but, remember anyone can be a father but, it takes a real man to be a dad....

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