How do you get children motivated to help around the house?

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My daughter is 7.. split up with her father a year ago.. and it used to be there thing.... I have been trying to get her to understand the importance of keeping her toys and such organized... she likes to buy ice cream from the ice cream truck @ her summer camp so i told her every day she cleans up i will give that.... but its still not enough ... i even tried changing everything but its more like a "im not feeling well i hurt myself leg hurts.".. im being given every excuse in the book! the change in her life was big but i think shes milking it...

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Melissa - posted on 07/30/2009

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i had the same problem with my kids. i let them choose how long it would take them to clean up there room and set a timer (they beat the timer every time). It my not be a perfect job but at least its done. Then make a big deal at how fast she cleaned it up.

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yeah i had to get creative because giving an allowance for ice cream didnt work... taking away tv didnt work... taking away play time @ the apt with the neighbors kids didnt work... she would jsut sit there! i was like omg!!!! so then i would clean with her and then i noticed it was more of a moving the toys back and forth..... sooo frustrating but i will definitely try these methods and see if any of them work :) i have a b/f whose been helping just b/c she really doesnt have a father figure in her life and hes new but hes not always there so she listens to him they played when he was visiting... but all the changes i know dont help much i will have to look into the supernanny ways i dont really watch tv at all anymore we read more than watch tv :)

Tiffany - posted on 07/30/2009

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And yea, put your foot down. She'll test what she can get away with. I've found the Supernanny method of time out works. But these ways will test you patients. Just stick to it.

Tiffany - posted on 07/30/2009

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Make it a game, like musical chairs. Pick up as much as you can before the music is off. Or a sticker chart, a sticker for each time she cleans and after a certain number of stickers a prize is won. Or you can try the more hard way, figure out what she loves most of her things, movie or a toy or a cuddle bear. If she doesnt do as you ask, tell her you'll take it away. and if she doesn't then take it away for a certain amount of time like a week or just until she does what you ask, your choice.

Letha - posted on 07/30/2009

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we give our kids "jobs" like after dinner my 7yr old cleans the table, the 4yr old puts away the condiments. getting them to clean their room is a hassle but it's something we literally have to sit in on and direct them. when i do laundry they carry their own clothes to their dresser and put them in, the point is to not to give in or give her the upper hand especially if she is milking it, don't throw it at her that this isnt daddy's house etc...try the other suggestions by making it a game. I did try that at first, but it backfired so now i just put my foot down my 7yr old would give me the excuses, i just come back with well if your room was clean you wouldn't have tripped on that toy and hurt your foot. or simply tell him that i don't care, and when his room is clean or his chores are done then we'll talk about how hurt his leg is..etc. not saying to put your foot down to the point of abuse but sometimes just putting your foot down and sticking to your gun is what you need to do, she's just testing you my kids are still doing that and it's been almost a year since their father and i split, trick is to figure out what is real and what is testing. hope this helps

Hayley - posted on 07/30/2009

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try to make it a fun game.. like playing basketball with the toys.. seeing who can make the most "baskets" by throwing the toys in the toybox.. hope this helps

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