How do you get children to accept that we can't keep everything??

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Chevon - posted on 06/29/2009

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Since my daughters have been roughly about 3 years old, I began encouraging them to sort through their toys, clothes, and books, once every 6 months. I explained to them that there were children in the world who either didnt have mommys and daddys, or their parents werent able to buy them the nice things that my girls were fortunate enough to have. I told them to pick out the things they thought would put a smile on the face of a little girl less fortunate than them. They did so with enthusiam! Now, at 5 and 6, they remind ME every 6 months that it is time to start sorting.

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Michelle - posted on 06/29/2009

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we tell our son the truth his old stuff toys clothes etc are going to kids in need he helps pack up the stuff he's not using anymore or has outgrown then goes with me to donate it to goodwill

Sabrina - posted on 06/29/2009

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My kids know tha I take the stuff to the goodwill and I tell them that we are giving the toys to other kids who cant afford them. The clothes they never say anything about. The only time I have problems with clothes is when I give my 2 yr old her big sisters clothes. The big one will tell me it is hers. I just tell her that she is too big for it and now it is Mackenzie's turn. She usually lets it go. I clean their rooms when they are not around. But if they break a toy and bring it to me I tell them to throw it away. I am trying to teach them to be more careful with their things.

Crissie - posted on 06/29/2009

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For me what I have learned works best is I tell my girls it is time sort thru their blessings to give them to someone and bless those who may not have toys/clothes/books and so on and we three will go thru things together and I let them choose one that they really want to give to someone and add it to the things that are ready to be given away and I take the girls with me and let them give them away and I tell you my 3yr old LOVES the time when we have to give stuff away!!

I did talk to them in general for a while and it never really seamed to sink in that we can not always hang on to everything.... I learned that sometimes the act of doing goes farther in accepting than talking them thru it!!!!

Much luck on your endeavor!!! Cc

Melissa - posted on 06/29/2009

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Quoting Chevon :

Since my daughters have been roughly about 3 years old, I began encouraging them to sort through their toys, clothes, and books, once every 6 months. I explained to them that there were children in the world who either didnt have mommys and daddys, or their parents werent able to buy them the nice things that my girls were fortunate enough to have. I told them to pick out the things they thought would put a smile on the face of a little girl less fortunate than them. They did so with enthusiam! Now, at 5 and 6, they remind ME every 6 months that it is time to start sorting.



I love this! I encourage giving to less fortunate as well, but probably not as well as you have, since my kids don't do it so enthusiastically. I think I will focus on this more in my home.

Amanda - posted on 06/29/2009

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simple. dont ever let things pile up and dont buy them everything they see in the stores. before they get a new toy an old one has to go. let them choose what to keep and what to donate or toss. before every gift reciving holiday go into the toy room with a box and help them purge a few of the older toys. If it is a toy that the child is far to old for tell them it will go to a new baby and he/she can get a big kid toy for their next birthday.

Melissa - posted on 06/29/2009

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I tell my children we need to make room for new toys and new clothes. To get them started I will take them out to buy something new, but then tell them they can't play with it until we get rid of some of their old things. I let them help me go through things and decide what stays and what goes, because what may look like trash to me, may be their favorite toy. For each new toy, or clothing, they need to get rid of 3-4 old things, the first time or two it was more like 10 old things for 1 new thing. I do not count hand-me-downs, or anything we are given as new. Even before birthdays and christmas, they must find some toys and clothes to donate or they will not recieve presents.

Stephanie - posted on 06/29/2009

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I usually put my change in our son's piggy bank anyway, but for every toy (or whatever) that your child gives away maybe he can get so much money. Maybe he'll be more tempted to let the things he doesn't use, go.

Christine - posted on 06/29/2009

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My two year old, is pretty good about letting go. I do go through his toys and clothes when he is not around to dispose of the broken or ruined items. He doesn't notice their abcense, some of the toys that he out grew that I kept, i'm now bring back out for our newest child. My son recognizes the toys, and plays with them for a minute or two, but then he's back to his big boy toys and indifferent to the baby toys. My daughter, she's a little worse, but if there are toys she hasn't played with in a few months they just disapear, she then, no word of a lie, the next day will ask where they are. I just tell her it must be around...and then she forgets about it and she's none the wiser.

What the eyes dont' see the heart doesn't grieve about, so if he's not there, he wont know.

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