How do you get over the father of your children or your ex if ya'll already broke up?

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Amy - posted on 01/16/2010

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I have 4 children with my ex the eldest is 4 1/2 the youngest is almost 5 months old and the little home wrecker that he left me for is due to have a baby any day now!!

It does get easier though there will be good days, bad days and sometimes really bad days.

Don't be affraid to cry, don't be affraid to ask for help and don't be affraid to talk to people about what is going on, dont be affraid to get angry!!!

The end of a long term relationship is often said to be like the death of a loved one but personally I think it is worse especially when there is children involved cause you still have to have contact with that person who ripped your heart out. Remember it is ok to grieve the loss of your relationship.

All in all it takes time.

GOOD LUCK im sure you are a great mum so just focus on that, but, always remember who you are cause there is nothing worse than losing yourself.

Claire - posted on 11/25/2009

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I don't think anybody could tell you how to do this. We all deal with things in different ways, but I can say the best thing to do is to concentrate on your children, and remember that something good came out of the relationship even if your not together anymore. U will get over him eventually, n when you feel the time is right you will move on from him.

Amanda - posted on 11/26/2009

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I was only 2 weeks prego when my now ex husband asked for a divorce. I was devistated, so i traveled the 15 hrs back to where all my family is and jumped in to doing community things. Im from a small town and i became one of our volunteer EMT's... It is very to think i was going to have to do it alone, but i knew i could do it, and so can you, and once i was going to classes i met one of our new police officers there and have been together since i was 5 months prego, my son turns 3 in 5 days... Good luck, it is hard but you can do it, If you start thinking about him maybe just jump in and play with your child to take your mind off of it...

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Nichole - posted on 06/01/2013

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see my baby daddy keep calling me and he leave a message say i still love you and i want to see my baby girl and i said no because what he did to me and her too!so i move on with someone and so far he doing great with me!baby daddy still money from me when i used to be with him and now he is out of my life and i want my daughter out of his life 2 so what should i do monique ward?

Monique - posted on 01/15/2010

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Thank you so much for those words of inspiration Christine & Terri. I really needed to hear that right now because the pain is fresh and I'm trying hard to fill the hole in my heart.

Terri - posted on 01/03/2010

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I agree with what the other women have said and would also add that in some way you are always going to be connected to your baby's father, good or bad, your child is a part of both of you. It has been almost a year since we had to leave my son's dad due to some domestic issues and I still think about him and am reminded of him at times just by looking at my son. I have come to realize there will be good days and bad days too. You just have to be strong for your kids and yourself that is what is important. :-)

Christine - posted on 01/02/2010

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I think its always going to be hard if u have children together but its been 7 months for me now and I found someone finally who really cares for me and its great but part of me will always miss my kids dad. Just give it time.

Kelly - posted on 12/16/2009

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Time , with any loss , thats all you can do , give it time , and remember to give time, time .

Best of luck :-)

Monique - posted on 12/15/2009

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Amanda that was definitely very, very, very encouraging & inspiring. Thank you!

Monique - posted on 12/15/2009

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Thank you Angela for the advice & the compliment. I must always remember to stay focused on myself and my children.

Monique - posted on 12/15/2009

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Thank you Claire...I just read this today. I appreciate your comment very much!

Angela - posted on 11/25/2009

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I'm going through the same exact situation and I agree with Claire; there's no way to tell you to do this. What I'm doing is focusing on my now 2 month old daughter and focusing on my goals in life, completing college and getting my medical technology degree. The same way he isn't thinking about how you feel about the relationship, don't give that part of your past that much energy. You're a strong woman (I don't doubt) and you'll get past this when your good and ready in your soul.

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