how do you get your kids from sleeping with you

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My stepdaughter's bio-mom lets her sleep in bed with her whenever she wants. That just doesn't work for my husband and I, plus the fact that we simply don't have room for us and a 30 lb 2 year old on a queen size bed! So it's hard on Katherine, going back and forth between two households with very different rules (bio-mom lets her get away with pretty much everything), but she is learning what she needs to do at our house. When Katherine wants to come into bed with us, we just go into her room with her for a couple minutes, talk to her softly or give her a hug and lay her back down with her duckie blankie and teddy bear and she will usually be ok. But there are certainly some rough nights lol

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Alicia - posted on 06/27/2009

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i honestly just put my son in his crib and he cryed for an hour the first night but after that he has not spent a night out of his crib

Jessica - posted on 06/21/2009

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Well I have always had my baby in bed with me at night because we moved around a lot.but she sleeps in her own bed now that I have gotten her more stable. One thing I had to do is express to her about her own personal space. When she got her first room to herself I had decorated in what she loves the most, princesses. I told her this was only her room and she loves it. her bed and walls are all princesses and I have gotten her to sleep in there alone.

Amanda - posted on 06/19/2009

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If they are to waling age you are going to have to wake up and walk them back their rooms and put thme back in their own beds, It will be hard but it will workin about 3 weeks of doing it.

Tamika - posted on 06/19/2009

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It takes 21 times of doing somthing to make it a habit, with that being said, it will probably take you about a month to break this habit. My best friend had this same problem and I had to break it for her. First, dont start the habit to begin with. Second if your child is in a toddler bed, go back to the crib untill the habit is broken. Establish a bedtime routin, and once you child is sleepy put him in the crib, he will most likely cry, but leave he there. I know it sounds bad to make him cry himself to sleep but that is better then you sleeping in the babies room or on the floor next to the crib. I experienced this with my second son. He got used to sleeping with us when he got an upper respitory infection. It took a week of letting him cry until he understood that onces mommy and daddy say goodnight and turn on his aquarium thats it.

Chris - posted on 06/19/2009

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Thanks girl...they go to sleep in their bed and when i wake up they are in my bed.

Jamie - posted on 06/19/2009

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First rule of thumb. Never let them start to begin with. Now just follw what everyone else is saying. You probably wont get much sleep for a few nights but it will be worth it.

Tashia Ann - posted on 06/19/2009

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with my daughter i started when she was almost to yes she slept with me all that time lol but i started with naps in her bed an i stayed close so she didnt freak out when she woke up with out me!

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i totally agree because I had the same problem with my oldest. I always use to let her sleep with me at one point we shared a bed because It was just her and I until I met my hubby. It took me until she was 6 to get out of my bed!!!

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Quoting Jill:



Quoting Renee:

Get them out of the bed as soon as possible! It's going to take a lot of work but it's up to you to decide how much you want to achieve them sleeping the night in their own beds. I am a single parent and since she was an infant I made the mistake of taking my daughter to my bed when she would wake up in the middle of the night. I just didn't want to bother with staying up and trying to get her back to sleep. So it continued and it got to the point where she would wake up around the same time every evening because she refused to sleep in her own bed through the night and getting her to sleep was a chore as well. I had to stay in bed with her or next to her bed holding her hand until I was sure she went to sleep. She was 6 when I decided it was enough and finally left her in her bed alone. She would scream and cry for hours and she would get up out of bed numerous times. Instead of caving in to the screams and cries, I would walk her to her bed without talking to her each time she got up. Eventually she would go to sleep. And after a few nights of doing this, she would get out of bed less and would cry less because she knew I was serious and she knew she wasn't getting her way. In the middle of the night when she would run to my bed, I would get up and walk her back to her bed each time. It's a long and tedious process but if you stick with it and don't give in, then you will accomplish it. What you do by keeping your kids in your bed is create a dependence of your kids on you to help them get to sleep and it also affects their confidence to achieve other things in their day to day lives. I wish you luck and if you have any other questions please feel free to send me a message. I know how hard it can be.





I agree, put them in their bed, and each time they get out, just keep taking them back...it'll probably take time, but they'll get the point.






Good Luck!





 

Jill - posted on 06/19/2009

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Quoting Renee:

Get them out of the bed as soon as possible! It's going to take a lot of work but it's up to you to decide how much you want to achieve them sleeping the night in their own beds. I am a single parent and since she was an infant I made the mistake of taking my daughter to my bed when she would wake up in the middle of the night. I just didn't want to bother with staying up and trying to get her back to sleep. So it continued and it got to the point where she would wake up around the same time every evening because she refused to sleep in her own bed through the night and getting her to sleep was a chore as well. I had to stay in bed with her or next to her bed holding her hand until I was sure she went to sleep. She was 6 when I decided it was enough and finally left her in her bed alone. She would scream and cry for hours and she would get up out of bed numerous times. Instead of caving in to the screams and cries, I would walk her to her bed without talking to her each time she got up. Eventually she would go to sleep. And after a few nights of doing this, she would get out of bed less and would cry less because she knew I was serious and she knew she wasn't getting her way. In the middle of the night when she would run to my bed, I would get up and walk her back to her bed each time. It's a long and tedious process but if you stick with it and don't give in, then you will accomplish it. What you do by keeping your kids in your bed is create a dependence of your kids on you to help them get to sleep and it also affects their confidence to achieve other things in their day to day lives. I wish you luck and if you have any other questions please feel free to send me a message. I know how hard it can be.


I agree, put them in their bed, and each time they get out, just keep taking them back...it'll probably take time, but they'll get the point.



Good Luck!

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Get them out of the bed as soon as possible! It's going to take a lot of work but it's up to you to decide how much you want to achieve them sleeping the night in their own beds. I am a single parent and since she was an infant I made the mistake of taking my daughter to my bed when she would wake up in the middle of the night. I just didn't want to bother with staying up and trying to get her back to sleep. So it continued and it got to the point where she would wake up around the same time every evening because she refused to sleep in her own bed through the night and getting her to sleep was a chore as well. I had to stay in bed with her or next to her bed holding her hand until I was sure she went to sleep. She was 6 when I decided it was enough and finally left her in her bed alone. She would scream and cry for hours and she would get up out of bed numerous times. Instead of caving in to the screams and cries, I would walk her to her bed without talking to her each time she got up. Eventually she would go to sleep. And after a few nights of doing this, she would get out of bed less and would cry less because she knew I was serious and she knew she wasn't getting her way. In the middle of the night when she would run to my bed, I would get up and walk her back to her bed each time. It's a long and tedious process but if you stick with it and don't give in, then you will accomplish it. What you do by keeping your kids in your bed is create a dependence of your kids on you to help them get to sleep and it also affects their confidence to achieve other things in their day to day lives. I wish you luck and if you have any other questions please feel free to send me a message. I know how hard it can be.

Katie - posted on 06/19/2009

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You know my aunt use to say, fine if they want to sleep with us thats okay. she put sleeping bags on the floor, and they were not allowed into bed. i thought that was a great idea!!

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