How do you get your kids to sleep in the same room

Mary - posted on 06/04/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My ex-husband and I have always had a bedtime routine with my 5 year old. Dinner, bath, books, bed. He knows the order. He knows when the clock strikes 6 pm what will come next and at what time. He throws his fits and tantrums and screams, but he does always fall asleep before 9 or 10. If I deviate from that routine, he’s a monster to be around the next day.



I also have a 9 month old son. Up until recently, I put my 9 month old to bed in my room and my 5 year old to bed in his room. Recently I broke up with my 9 month old’s father and moved in with my mother. Due to the size of the bedrooms in her house, my boys have to share a room now. The bedtime routine has become impossible.



If I put the baby to bed early, the baby is woken up by his brother’s bedtime tantrums. If I put big brother to bed first, baby doesn’t get enough sleep for the next day. If I put baby to bed in a play-pen in a separate room, baby wakes up when I transfer him and wakes big brother up. I could let my 9 month old sleep in a play pen all night, but it just doesn’t look comfortable and I’m going to have to resolve this problem eventually.



I know there are other people out there with two kids sleeping in the same room. How do you make it work?

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Jessica - posted on 06/04/2009

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I don't want you to think that we spank our children often and for no reason, they always have options. Have you tried taking priviledges away or rewarding him. Like instead of always getting a bedtime story use it as a reward if its something he enjoys. Maybe make a good seep chart and if he goes to bed so many night in a row without a fit he gets a reward ie...special movie or trip to the park. I hope some of this helps.

Mary - posted on 06/04/2009

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I agree. Spanking is a controversial issue. In our house spankings are reserved solely for life-and-death issues. The last time I spanked my 5 year old was 3 years ago when he ran out in front of a moving vehicle. Since then we’ve relied on time-outs and writing lines for punishment.



I don’t put him to bed at 6, the bedtime routine starts at 6. As in 6 PM, dinner. 7 PM bath. 7:45 bedtime stories. 8:15 lights out. 9 or 10 he’s asleep.

Jessica - posted on 06/04/2009

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Apparently I am a little contraversial on this issue but I say a good spanking. I have 4 children 7,4,3,and 1. The 7 and 3yr old share a room and the 4 and 1 yr old share a room (divided by sex not age) and they sleep fine together. Every once in a while my daughter feels the need to sing and play in bed which keeps my other daughter awake, she is firmly warned but if she keeps it up she is removed from the room given a spanking and put in my bed for a couple minutes. Do you put him to bed at six? Maybe if you put him to bed around 7 or 7:30 he will be more receptive to bedtime. At 5 they have a lot of energy and sometimes they're just not ready. My kiddos go to bed between 7:30 & 8 and most of the time they do just fine. It may work putting him to bed a little later since he doesn't fall asleep until 9 or 10 anyway.

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