How do you handle temper tantrums?

Cara - posted on 06/03/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Well My son is 2 years old and he has a very bad temper. Any ideas on how to handle this with out losing my cool?

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User - posted on 06/08/2009

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My 20 month old daughter is HORRIBLE with tantrum's! She will throw herself to the ground, kick and scream. Hit her self. it's a never ending battle. I found the best thing to do is walk away from them. Dont give them any attention for the way they are acting! Go into another room, if they follow you and throw themselves to the floor in that room, then go to a different room. If i give he no attention for the way she is acting, she will quit with a little bit of time when she realizes its all for nothing! I've asked her doctor about it and they keep telling me she is expressing who she is going to be! So lord help me!!!! Good luck!

LaCi - posted on 06/08/2009

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mine isnt a year old yet. He started throwing tantrums a few months ago. i never gave into his demands during a tantrum, I pretty much ignored the tantrum until he looked like he wanted a response and at that point I would give him a calm, firm NO. After a couple months of that he gave up on tantrums. I do believe the only reason he thought it would work is because everyone else would give into them, including his daddy. Once I had a talk with daddy about the tantrums and we both did the same thing he stopped doing it. No tantrums since.

Might not be comparable, due to the age difference.

Teyaka - posted on 06/03/2009

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Depends on the tantrum and where we are. My oldest has seen other little kids throwing them and getting their way. I don't believe in giving in like that. If we are in a store I let him fall to the floor if he wants. I tell him to get up. If he doesn't, I walk a few feet away. Far enough to still see him and get to him quick, but far enough to get my point across. At home, I throw a tantrum with him. He screams I scream. He falls on the floor, so do I. I show him how silly it looks. We laugh and move past it. Honestly it just turns into a silly game and that point. He gets it out his system. You get to yell and roll around to get it out of yours! The first time you do it, it really looks silly and feels silly. But you will feel better when you are done.

Jolene - posted on 06/03/2009

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For me it really just depends on what the tantrum is about. If it's about something simple like not being able to have something...I just ignore it and she stops right away. If it's something bigger though I think time outs are the way to go. They say 1 minute for every year old your child is, but I don't really agree with that. I think depending on how much your child understands (and only you know your child best) should determine the length of a time out. If they really get the concept, definatly do it longer then 2 mins. I they are still learning the concept of time outs then 2 mins should work fine.

Christine - posted on 06/03/2009

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Well...i will tell you i do spank my kids...and she's right,,it doesn't work. When they are that young...i know this may be the wrong thing to say..but ignore them completely. Cool your temper and put on the biggest smile you can when your in public. Say outloud..now child...do you really think all these people haven't seem a tantrum before? Then laugh at him and pray he laughs with you. Don't get mad..don't let your child see that he is bothering you (they are selfish little beings and they do this on purpose just to make sure they have your attention). Your child looks to you before the tantrum starts to see if this is something that might upset them. If you let him see your unsure about not giving him that toy at the register he will decend on your nerves like a ravenous pack of wolves. When you know something is probably going to upset them...be matter of fact..all the time..don't even flinch for a second until he has moved on to something new. Oh and as far as the previous post...don't do things so your kids won't end up like you...or so you don't end up like your parents..this is your kid. and by doing that preventative crap your really doing the opposite of what you striving for by doing it. The only reason people try and prevent that kind of stuff is because they are still uneasy about the fact they went all those years and wernt in control of their lives...Your in control now..by preventing things those things are actually controlling you. And if all this doesn't work...go sit down and actually listen to what that inner mommy is telling you..not everybody else. Talk to her..she will answer with what you want not what your friends tell you. I would say "hope his helps" but the truth is...i know this works...the question is..do you have the courage to try it?

Courtney - posted on 06/03/2009

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I put my daughter on time out...it took a few months to get her used to the "idea" of what time out is and why it sucks. She is going to be 2 in july and when she starts to melt down I ask her if she wants a time out and she ALWAYS says no, then I re-direct her to do something else that won't get her into trouble. I must admit that she has been a bit more of a handful lately, she used to only get like 1 time out a day and this past week or 2 she has, on average, 3-4 a DAY!!! We REFUSE to hit her, so we just have to keep up and stay strong. Both my hubby and I got hit a lot when we were kids and we felt that we still misbehaved, but we had this "fear" of our parents that we don't want our daughter to have. I hope I've helped!

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