How do you help a 2 yr old understand thier new sibling isn't taking thier place?

Becky - posted on 06/06/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




Our daughter is the first grandchild and is severely spoiled by everybody. We now have a 2 wk old son and she's acting like we don't pay attention to her. We do, but she's not getting as much as she used to. I would like to know ways to help her understand that she's not being replaced and that we still love her just as much as before.


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Jill - posted on 06/06/2009




Let her help with the baby, and make sure to still set aside one-on-one time with her. It may take a little while, but I'm sure she'll get used to being a big sister soon! Oh, and when she helps with the baby make sure to thank her for it, and tell her what a good helper/big sister she is.

Abby - posted on 06/06/2009




i have a step daughter who was also the first grandchild! so was hard for her too(she was also 2)

books are good, we got one in a pharmacy, also toys, we got a dora the explorer toy that had a baby brother and sister dolls too!

get her involved, help with feedin or changing, get her to pass the cream or a nappy. it's gonna be hard for her as she's been the centre of everyone's world till now!

she will get over it, alana now adores my son and he also adores her! dont forget they dont understand why baby does nothing other than sleep drink and cry. cam's 10 months ans soooooo much fun, so alana loves being able to play with him and sing to him! xx

Liz - posted on 06/06/2009




Get her as involved as possible in changing diapers and feeding the baby and holding the baby! Let her kiss him and hug him and play with him as long as she's not hurting him!! Doing this will involve her and she won't feel left out! She'll love it!! Make sure you praise her a lot!! Make it a big deal whenever she does something helpful! She'll love being with the baby and won't feel neglected! Good luck! This worked like a charm with my daughter!!

Kathleen - posted on 06/06/2009




There's a dvd's Dora so she might like it...but it's called Big Sister Dora. I bought it for my niece when my youngest niece was born. She helped a lot to get clothes, towels, diapers whatever for the baby. Now she calls the baby sissy or nana lol Hardly ever fight :D

Cynthia - posted on 06/06/2009




For my husband and I, when our second son was born we made sure to let our first one help as much as possible. He grabbed the diapers, held the bottle, and grabbed whatever else we needed. This also allowed us to get to stay in one place with the new one. He seemed to think his brother was his responsibility. They get along really well and introducing number three was just as easy of a transition. Hang in there!

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