How long do you play with your little ones???

Kerrie - posted on 09/16/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )




my daughter enjoys playing either on her playmat, in her walker and with her toys.

i tend to play with her anything up to 2 hours a day broken up. (i mean laying on the floor playing with her) i was told the other day this is not enough and i should be constantly playing with her.

she doesnt like me to constantly be playing with her but this has now made me feel like a bad mum so am asking everyone else's opinions and how long u play for??

most days we also go out or for a walk for at least hour so we are not always able to play as such

what do u do and does this make me bad i dont want my little lady missing out


Jodi - posted on 09/17/2010




I play with my daughter A LOT. When she was an infant I probably spent 4+ hours a day playing/interacting with her, squeezing in housework when I could. Now that she's a toddler, I include her in the chores and play with her in HER way as well, still spending a minimum of 4+ hours a day playing or interacting with her. She plays independantly just fine, not for large amounts of time,but 20 or 30 minutes here and there throughout the day on her own when I do my own thing.
You're not a bad mum at all, but I might aim for a little more than "up to 2 hours a day..." and maybe try for at least 2hours? Babys need interaction in order to learn good social skills and just learning in general. When you play with her, you can tell her the ball is red, or the toy is square, she won't learn that playing by herself! But not constantly, she needs alone time and so do you! But you are in no way a bad mum!!!!! Have FUN with her!!!


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Teresa - posted on 09/17/2010




I agree with the other moms. Kids need time to play by themselves also. Teaches them independce and it is okay to play alone and use their little imaganations. When I do my visits with my kids we play for 3 hours. And it was the same when they lived with me also. Mine are real close in age so they also have each other, but they also like playing alone to. You are a good mom and are not doing anything wrong with the way you do ur play time. The person that told you that you need to constantly needs to open their eyes up and realize kids need to grow without being there 24/7. We as moms got other things we got to do. That doesnt mean we leave them alone and unattended we just do what we gotta do but still keep a close eye on them. Your daughter will grow and know you are a great mom and love you always

Schyla - posted on 09/17/2010




anytime you spend with your child is playing who ever told you that is wrong.

Joann - posted on 09/17/2010




dont let anyone make you feel like a bad mom.mine will tell me to go because he likes to play by myself alot or with his playmates. what you need to remember is your child needs you and wants you and playing with them for 2 hours and doing other things with them like walking is great some moms dont even give their children that much youre a good mom

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Babies and children NEED time to play and explore on their own. If we are constantly showing them things, how will they learn and make new discoveries? Yes, we should play with our children and teach them. But it's equally important for them to learn on their own through play. Good job Mama!

Charity - posted on 09/17/2010




Shame on the person making you feel bad! It sounds like you are doing a great job. Babies need attention but they don't need 12hrs straight. I think it's a good choice to play on and off throughout the day. Besides, she is going to have to know how to entertain herself and be independent as well as social and playful.

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My son is very independent and likes to play by himself alot. I play with him most of the time when he comes over wanting me to play with him, but I would say that 80% of the time he prefers to play by himself. I don't think it makes you a bad parent. Every kid is different and if yours is independent and likes to play by themselves then that's fine. As long as you don';t normally ignore them when they want to play with you then don't worry about it

Lisa - posted on 09/17/2010




I play with my son as much as I can. I think it is also important for him to play on his own because he will learn independence.

September - posted on 09/16/2010




It sounds like you spend plenty of time with your daughter. It does not always have to be playtime for your daughter to get the benefit of your time. We spend a lot of one on one time with our almost 2 year old son. I think that we spend more time playing, reading, singing, going for walks, doing crafts. I love hanging out with our son but I also enjoy watching him play on his own as well. Our son does enjoy alone time which is usually when I'm cooking or cleaning. I’m sure you’re a wonderful Mom!

Morgan - posted on 09/16/2010




I play with my daughter for half the time and let her play alone half the time, she sleeps 12 hours at night and about 4 in the day, so it works out about 4 hours a day that I am on the floor interacting with her :)

Sarh - posted on 09/16/2010




Umm. no not constantly!!! sounds like you are doing a great job! My son is 3 months and I play w/him for as long as he tolerates it, I play w/him until he gets crabby or becomes tired.

Montana - posted on 09/16/2010




playing with her constantly will not help her gain any independance. you dont have to be playing with her to involve her. put her in her walker while u r in the kitchen. turn on some music in the background and sing along so she can hear. just knowing you are there is great for her.

Carrie - posted on 09/16/2010




You definitely do not need to play with her constantly. She needs to learn how to entertain herself now or she will be expecting you to play with her constantly for the rest of her life.

Meilan - posted on 09/16/2010




Who told you you have to play with her constantly? That's rubbish! I agree, it's important (and fun) to play with you daughter. But I think it's also very important for her to learn to entertain herself, because you simply can't be there ALL the time.
When we're not out in the morning, we usually play about 3 hours before lunch. After her afternoon nap she plays on her own till her dad comes back from work. And then he plays with her. Works fine for us.

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