How many yrs apart are your chn.

Kylie - posted on 05/02/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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What is your opinion- pros or cons of different age gaps. Our son is already 1 so there will be at least 2yrs plus of an age gap between our children.

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My girls are 5 yrs apart, and I like it that way. It's like going through it all with one, then being able to go through the little stages with the other while the eldest is at school. I have really enjoyed that. Now my youngest is going to preschool this fall. And they both had one on one time with me. It was great!

Amanda - posted on 05/04/2009

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well I have twins so no gap there lol but between my twins and the youngster is 4 years and 6 weeks. my step son is 5 so there is a 14 month gap between my twins and 3 yr gap between the youngest. hope that's not confusing LOL

User - posted on 05/04/2009

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i have two boys thomas is 5 in october an joseph is 4 in augusst only 10 mths between them

Kylie - posted on 05/03/2009

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My children are 3 years 9 months apart. I think its an excellent age gap as they both get the one one time with me. My 4 year old absolutely adores he baby brother is a great help. It also helps that she is 100% potty trained , sleeps through the night, can dress herself and make her own breakfast and can happily watch a 2 hour Disney film from start to finish while i have a lay down with the new baby. i also get two days a week when my 4 year old is at kindy to bond with the baby and get some me time. She cannot wait until he is big enough for her to feed and show him how to go down the slide (her words) I grew up in a family where us 3 kids were all 18 months apart, it was tough as children but now we are adults we are all very close and all hung out with each other friends in out teen years.

Gemma - posted on 05/03/2009

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My 2 sons are 12 months 2 weeks apart and I wouldn't have it any other way! Yeah of course it's hard work sometimes but what mum doesn't think that her children are difficult some days?!! I mean, no matter how many you have or when you have them they will always have a tantrum or not sleep etc at some point! My sons are best friends now. They are 20 months and 32 months. They play together, and yes whilst they do have the odd fight, it's nothing to do with age! I was 6 yrs older than my sister and we had our moments growing up too!! Have baby number 2/3/4 when you and your partner are ready and not when you think you should.

La - posted on 05/03/2009

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I have four kids their ages are 6, 5, 4, and 17 months. My two oldest are 11 months apart to the day!!! I love that I had them close together. They play together and are very close. I never had any jealousy problems and they all seemed to be happy about each other. And i feel I bond well with each of them , they all are mommy babies!!! I have a special place in my heart for each one!! yes we do have drama and some fighting ,but that happens no matter the age difference. but it was never a hard time and now it still is just find.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/03/2009

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My girls are 3 years 5 days apart. To me, it is wonderful. My oldest is at an age where she enjoys helping and really loves it. She was 3 when her sister was born, and not once have we had an issue of her not liking or wanting her sister. She has never been jealous of her sister. It is a good gap for us, but not always for everyone. I always knew i never wanted my children to be more than 4 years apart. I was 7 before my brother was born and it had taken us close to 19 years to get along!!

Kylie - posted on 05/02/2009

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Thanks everyone for adding your opinion. My hubby and I have discussed and agreed on what we would like as a preferred age gap with our children. It is nice to read others thoughts on the subject. We would like our eldest son to be toilet trained so we don't have two in nappies. That's just one of the things we would prefer. Cheers

Amanda - posted on 05/02/2009

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I have three children, I agree with the person that said having them real close is really hard. My first 2 are only 15 months apart. My third is 2 years younger than my middle child. Much easier.

Katherine - posted on 05/02/2009

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I like to have my children farther apart. Thier father doesnt like it...but i feel that my 4 yr old was more open to having a baby bro b/c she was more mature. She had just turned 4 when he was born Sept 13th. If we would have a 3rd, i would seriously aim for the 2nd child to be at least 3yrs. I feel this way b/c i came from a 5 children fam that we were all 2ys apart...Thought that was a little close for comfort.

Liza - posted on 05/02/2009

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My boys are 2 years 2 months apart. One is 2 and the other is almost 5 months. I want to have another one with about the same age gap as there is between the first two. I think in the long run it will be easier that way.

Danni - posted on 05/02/2009

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My boys are 3 years and 8 months apart. It is much easier because the oldest helps takes care of the youngest.

Ronnie - posted on 05/02/2009

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Mine are 1 year and 7 months apart. It was really hard at first but it's gotten easier and easier. Now that they're 2 and 4, they play really well together.

Deanne - posted on 05/02/2009

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I enjoy having my children so close together. I feel that when they grow together they just might have more in common with the smaller age gap. I have a 3, 5, and 7 yrs old. they all play together nicly though they do fight. With two girls and one boy it's bound to happen!

Elizabeth - posted on 05/02/2009

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my kids are 12 months apart...one is aug. 25th and the other is sept. 14th. i was very lucky in the face that my first was very independent and already walking at eight months, so having a new born to lug around and a one yr. old was that hard. i mean it could have been WAY worst. i love it now thou, they play great together, they are into the same age group for shows; play groups; actives, just about anything. i would recommend having children close in age, they always have a best buddy

Lauren - posted on 05/02/2009

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HI there

Ok i have experience of of close gaps and longer ones!

I have 5 children altogether. I had 3 years between 1 and 2 then only 16mths before I had my 3rd. The small gap was hell. My eldest had me to herself for 3 years and was very mature before I had my second so that was really easy.

Then I waited 3 1/4 years before no4 arrived. Again pretty straightforward. The older 3 were just excited because they grasped what was happening then after a little oops I had number 5 15 mths after 4 and i'm pretty much run ragged by the 2 little ones. Double buggies are a nightmare and it seems like you spend all day changing nappies though fortunately my youngest is now 2 so he's the only one still in nappies now.

The difference in age is that when they are young and there are any feelings of jealousy they don't know how to express it so you have to watch them like a hawk. If they are a bit older they understand that even if they are feeling a pang of the green eyed monster they know that it is wrong to hit the baby in the head with a sippy cup!

Jennifer - posted on 05/02/2009

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I have 3 children, all boys! Their ages are almost 5, 3, and 8 months. It hard to have them this close but there are some advantages. First off they are just close enough to play with each other and not be bored. They tend to enjoy the same type of activities. Second off if their of the same sex, as one grows out of clothes the other grows into them. Last of all, think about this, when they get older their out of the house like door steps. Dont get me wrong there are some disavantages too. Such as a stubborn child that doesnt want to potty train, you may have 2 in diapers at the same time. Or the older child being very jelous, or eventually vice versa. There is also less time to bond with new babies. I spend the most time with my 8 month old when the other to are napping or after they go to bed. You really have to make time for new baby bonding.The big thing that I find to be difficult in children that are very far apart in ages is the difference in interest. My baby sister and I are 9 yrs apart and didnt enjoy the same activies. It was difficult when I moved away from home because I was very attached to her. She is just graduating high school this year where I have been out several years. The one thing I have to say good about our age diffrence is that we were very close growing up because I really enjoyed being old enough to really watch her grow up and being able to remember her younger days. She was my baby. I am very happy with my children being this close together though because as they get older they can entertain each other somethimes rather than me having to constantly entertain them, this leaves much more time for household chores(and relax time when possible).

Shawna - posted on 05/02/2009

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There is a 3 year 5 months gap. I prefer it this way. I didn't want to have them too close together because i think it would be harder. I like it this way because my almost 4 year old is helpful and he doesn't need me as much as if he were younger so that leaves more bonding time for the baby.

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