How much is too much??!

Nicole - posted on 09/08/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




My baby girl is a very cuddly baby and she loves to snuggle with me on the lounge before sleeping at night. Sometimes it's hard for me to put her down as she cries. Should i get her out of this habit now and risk her not wanting snuggles at all, or should i do what comforts her and make do with her clinginess??


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Nicole - posted on 09/10/2009




Thankyou so much ladies for the comments. You have definitely given me great feedback and i really appreciate it. I have been giving cuddles today but i also don't cuddle too long, i figure that is slightly in between. That way we both get our cuddles, but we also get some space too. =)

Crystal - posted on 09/09/2009




My son is three months old, I've held him pretty much constantly since he was born. I lay him down when he falls asleep, and lately I've been propping him up when he's awake and he enjoys that too...but I still spend a lot of time holding him. Everyone has been telling me I shouldn't do this because I'll spoil him and he'll only want to be held, but the way I see it...why shouldn't i spoil him? He deserves it. Plus I feel like they are so tiny and they don't know whats going on just yet...they were inside you for nine months...and then they come into this world and are like "what the hell?" so I want him to know he is loved, and I love cuddling with him. I say enjoy it...because I figure eventually they will get to the point where they would rather be moving around, crawling and what not, then being held.

Alycia - posted on 09/09/2009




My son was very cuddly too when he was tiny and everyone told me not to let him be clingy and attached so much because he couldn't get to sleep without being snuggled with me first so at 7 months we did the cry it out method and although it's nice to be able to put him bed with no hassle now at 14 months old he never cuddles with me EVER and is content to just walk down the hall to his bed on request now and it makes me sad that our special time together is done and that he doesn't even want to sit with me for a bit before bed now! I say enjoy the cuddles and always go with your own instinct regardless of what anyone says...I certainly wish I had!

Blair - posted on 09/09/2009




I think it is nice to have all the cuddles but you should get your daughter out of snuggling on you just before bed even if she cries it will be better for her in the long run she will still love you just as much as she does now.

My sister was like that with my nephew he is 7yrs now and still wants snuggles before he goes to sleep some nights he just goes to bed but other nights hes still up at 10/11pm still crying because he cant have his snuggles with mum my daughter had a few hugs then went to bed as i didnt want her to be a fussy baby.

So unless you want a child who needs this all the time then stick with what you are doing but i sugest you dont snuggle just before bed a few cuddles is fine unless of cause your child is sick then their is need for snuggles with mum LOL

hope this helps i know it can be hard with all the crying but at least they are only small and will grow out of it when they are bigger its alot harder let me know how you get on

Carly - posted on 09/09/2009




Hi Nicole

Congratulations on your gorgeous girl! :-) I say enjoy the cuddles. She is sooooo little and has had constant "cuddles" inside you for 9 months, so it is understandable that she wants to keep cuddling you now. She doesn't know who she is or where she is or what the hell is going on, but she knows being with you is the loveliest, safest place of all.

Your daughter is way too young to worry about "bad habits". Babies change so quickly. Nothing you do with her now will be set in stone. Go with the flow and do what works and what makes you and your bub happy. There is plenty of time for your daughter to learn about being independent.

Good luck and have fun!!

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