How to calm down my 3.5 years old when he's screaming in the public

Leilibimajnon66 - posted on 10/01/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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So yesterday we're at the kid's gym with my friend, and my 3 years old didn't want to share toys so he got really mad and start throwing toys, I tried to distract him and it helped a little, at the end when we were ready to leave he start crying because he didn't want to leave, I explained to him that he can come back next week and we're going to ride the car(he likes riding on a car) the more I talked the more he screamed. He really embarrassed me and I don't know what to do if it happen again. please help!

P.S He is a good boy when we're alone but he always act out it public

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Jodi - posted on 10/03/2014

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I used to give calm warnings too, warning that if this is the way they are going to behave, we will leave. Then, I'd pick them up and leave with them kicking and screaming. I've left a full shopping trolley to follow through on that one once.

I only had to do it a couple of times with both my kids. After that, the warnings were enough to put a stop to the tantrums.

I certainly wouldn't be telling him we will come back next week if he is going to carry on like that, quite the opposite in fact.

Chet - posted on 10/03/2014

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I give a couple warnings that you need to speak with your normal voice, you need to behave properly, etc. I'll try to help the child move on from the episode by redirecting attention to something different, or moving to a quiet corner to calm down. If things don't turn around quickly though, we just leave.

Leilibimajnon66 - posted on 10/01/2014

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Haha luckily we were with your sister! I was with my shy friend, she is not coming with me to the gym anymore :))

Leilibimajnon66 - posted on 10/01/2014

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Thanks,It was really helpful. That's actually how I was planing to do so too! I just didn't ignore him because people looked at me very bad and like "look she is not even trying" But who are they to judge thanks again you made me feel better!

Pamela - posted on 10/01/2014

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First of all, we have all been there in the situation you described above. Don't feel embarrassed and if a mother gives you that disapproving look say "Like you have perfect kids" or to yourself. What ever makes you feel better. My older son did that and what I learned is for some like me it turned out to be something more. And of course, for some it was a faze. But remind your self you are doing your best and that's all we moms can do;)

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