How to deal?

Tiffany - posted on 06/02/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Recently underwent surgery for an ectopic pregnancy. I was 5 weeks pregnant and did not even know. Because it ruptured, dr had to go in through my existing c-section scar and take out my right fallopian tube. Its been 5 days and I am still coping with the physical pain, but I am afraid once that passes my full attention will be on the emotional pain. Has anyone gone through this or have any advice? Thank you.

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Tiffany - posted on 06/02/2009

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Thank you ladies so much, I am new to this site and already have found myself on it all morning! This is such a great way to get "out there" and talk to people. Thanks again!

Christy - posted on 06/02/2009

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I dealt with something similar a few years ago. I had a laproscopy because my DR. thought I had an ectopic pregnancy. It turns out it was a normal pregnancy. I was only 4weeks though. The baby never grew further than the ball of cells it starts out as. After the physical pain diminished, I definately focused on the emotional pain for a while. I was 8wks when I lost the baby. I didnt know that the baby stopped developing...so in my mind I was having a normal pregnancy so it was difficult to cope once I lost the baby. I went through selfish times. If any one was pregnant I was secretly jealous. I had a friend who actually went through the exact thing a couple years prior. She was able to help me through it by talking. Thats all I can really tell you is to have a good support team that will just listen to your feelings. It helped me to get it out. And as always time heals pain!! I'm sorry that you must go through this...The best of luck to you!!!

Natalie - posted on 06/02/2009

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I havent gone thorough it but know ppl that have! I dont take it much different than having a miscarriage though! I have had many of those! The phsyical pain I cant really comment on other than take it easy and it will go by! The emotional pain is something that is harder to get over! From when we find out that we are pregnant we get attached instantly! Just know that it was not your fault and you did it to save your life! You can have another baby but this no other you! You did the best thing! There is no way around an ectopic pregnancy and I am sorry that you had to go through it! Just know that that lil one is in heaven and they are good! Well as long as you know that it was out of your hands and you did what was the best thing, I believe that you will heal! It will take some time and you may not want to try again soon! But just know that you still can! Everything happens for a reason! Stay strong!

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