How to deal????

Tonya - posted on 09/24/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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How do you deal with having the "devil incarnate" (j/K) as a child????? I have the neediest cry baby in the world it seems!! I've never met any other child like him. He cries when I leave the room, when I set him beside me, when I put him on the floor, pretty much if I'm not holding him so he can jump then he's crying..... I can't take it anymore!!! He's eight months old. Shouldn't he be able to entertain himself??????? I'm going nuts and seriously getting depressed here.... any suggestions out there???

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Tonya - posted on 09/24/2009

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You sound like you're going to be a great mom! I never thought about the peek-a-boo around the corner. I'll have to try that. He just gets so angry the second I put him down. I'm sitting here with earplugs in my ears and he's screaming on the floor next to me :( Thank you for your input. My husband doesn't like me drinking, but he's just going to have to deal with it now! I sure could use a glass! lol Thanks! Good luck on your new one!!!

Ruth - posted on 09/24/2009

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Huni i am yet to have my first, im due in less than 2 weeks now, anyway, i used to work as a live in nanny and the family i worked for their daughter was like that, if i was on my own with her i couldn't even go pee in private i had to take her with me.

She had a mother that constantly gave her attention as soon as she asked for it which was what started the problem, but after months of hard work i got the wee one to learn that yes i may go out of sight, but i ALWAYS come back again, i started by putting her in a bouncer and worked my way further and further away from her whilst talking to her. Then once she was okay with this i would change it to playing peek a boo at the door frame, making the times im hidden longer and longer, i always made me coming back really fun for her which made it easier for her too.

As for the going to sleep aspect thats VERY tough to change, it will seem really cruel and is very difficult to do but you must put him in his cot to go to sleep on his own, let him cry it will not do him any harm, yes he may go on for what seems like ages but he will soon learn that he WILL see you again, but tackle the sleeping one you have advanced atleast a little with the leaving him in a room even for a few minutes.



Good luck



8 months is a long time to have coped with this on your own, so dont forget to reward yourself for making progress and that may help relieve your depression, even if it is only a glass of wine in the bath one night.

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