How to deal with being a young mom and step mom ?

Adela - posted on 04/04/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Being a young mom can be difficult at times. I've been told by many people that I'm doing a great job so far. Still, I would like some help and advice from women who are in the same position as I am: young, a new mom to a 2 month old, a wife, and step mom. Feels like I have nothing in common with women around my age anymore. :(

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IrishGirl - posted on 12/11/2013

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Join a step mom group! I am a co coordinator of group that I found on Meetup.com. I am not even a mom yet *(but I hope to be soon!). I completely understand where you are coming from. NONE of my girlfriends understand what it's like. it helps to have support. :-)

Crystal - posted on 04/12/2013

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im in the same position sorrta im 20 have a 7 month old engaged and have a 2 1/2 year old step son

Staci - posted on 04/08/2013

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Yes, time fixes alot of things, another thing you can do is ask your stepson to help you with the baby, it makes the older child feel involved, even if its just grabbing a diaper for the baby or helping put the binky in his mouth.
Once your son is 11 or 12 months, he will be able to play with the older one too. My 4 year old daughter LOVES playing with her little brother, even though she still gets very jealous.

Staci - posted on 04/07/2013

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Also, when you're feeling alone, just know that there are LOTS of women your age who are going through the same things as you. A great thing you can do is go to the local parks and talk to other moms, even if your baby is in a stroller and not playing on the playscape. If you make a friend, organize a play date, they can be super beneficial to you AND your child.

Staci - posted on 04/07/2013

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How old are you? I am 22 now, I had my daughter when i had just turned 18. I am not a step mom but my daughter has a step dad (my husband) and i feel i can relate to that relationship somewhat. I also have a son with my husband. And i agree, being a young mom is super hard, I lost all of my friends except 1 when I had my daughter at such a young age. ( i hadnt even graduated high school yet)
I became a wife at 20 which was the best decision I had ever made.

What kinds of questions do you have? I can imagine it is very hard being a step-parent, all you can do is try to treat the child as it's your own :/

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Melissa - posted on 09/02/2013

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I am definitely in your boat. I am 25. My husband and I got married May of 2012. I am now a stepmother to a 5 year old girl and we have our own 5 month old baby girl. I sincerely believe that being a stepmom is (for me) going to be way harder than being a biological mom. Trying to earn a spot in a child's life while having a natural bond with your own and trying to love equally = difficult. I definitely know what you are going through. Also nice to know that somebody is feeling what I'm feeling.

Nicole - posted on 04/15/2013

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I felt the same way in the beginning. She had a hard time because her dad was giving attention to someone else but after awhile it was fine. Now she is 15 and m fearful of how grown up she is.

Adela - posted on 04/07/2013

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Thank you ladies for the advice ! :)

I'm 21 years old with. A two month old baby boy
It's been a year since I came into my step sons life . His father gas full custody of him so he lives with us . I try my best to treat him like my own . I think he's jealous because I give all my attention to my two month old ( I don't intend to but the little guy needs me 24/7 ) I have tried to explain to my step son that his brother is little and needs me . I guess the reason why I'm upset /depressed most is that I lost a lot of my friends my age and i don't have girls in common that I can hang with here . It'll be nice to have friends who understand that I just can't pack up and make plans without funding a sitter in advance and all that . I guess I just got to give things time :)

Meagan - posted on 04/06/2013

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I agree that life as a mother can be very overwhelming, especially at such a young age. I also feel lonely sometimes too. When my boyfriend is at work is when I really feel lonely. And even though I have my daughter to keep me company, it's not the same as with someone my age or a family member. Just give it some time and things will eventually get better!

Adela - posted on 04/05/2013

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Meagen,
Thank you for the response . I'm 21 years old . Although life as a mother is great it can be overwhelming . I have nothing in common with women my age . It's kinda lonely at times. I'm trying my best with everything . I hope in time things get better :)

Meagan - posted on 04/05/2013

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How old are you? I'm 19, I'll be 20 in August, and my daughter turns a year old April 26th! My boyfriend (my daughter's father) and I are still together and we have our own house. My advice is just be the best mother you can be! Treat your step child like they are your own! Just stay strong and keep your head up! If you need anything else or advice just ask me. :)

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