How to deal with mother not seeing her grandchild and busy playing tennis and has new fiance.

Brandi - posted on 09/27/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My parents have split for over a year now and I have a 2 year old boy. My mother never makes any efforts to see my toddler, no phone calls, no stopping by, no lunches or dinners. Everytime I ask her to do stuff she cant because she has tennis practice or she is in a tournament. She recently moved 40 minutes away with her new fiancé and is head over hills about him and tennis ( her life revolves around tennis ). My in laws live about 4 hours away and they see baby about once a month and stays with us for the weekend. My in laws see baby more that my mom ever has. My dad hardly makes any attempt either but I expect my mom to make more attempts because she is my mother.

How should I cope with my feelings I have and how should I deal with the situation?


Michelle - posted on 09/27/2013




Don't worry about it. My Mother has been the same and my oldest is 12!!!! In his whole life she has only had him twice overnight and once had him back to us by 8am when she lived over and hour away!! She has never had my 2 boys together who are now 12 and 9.5 and never had my 8.5yo or my 3yo at all.
I don't have any of my in laws around as they all live overseas. My boy's grandparents are in New Zealand and South Africa and my daughters grandparents are in Canada. We are in Australia so they don't get to see them very often. The only grandparent close by is my Mum and she doesn't make the effort either.
Look at it this way, she's the one losing out. She's the one not forming a relationship with her grandchild. Don't feel guilty for her actions.

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