How to deal with my ex & Myself?

Maretta - posted on 07/16/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My Ex and i were togather for 5 years and have a 2.5 year old...Thats the only man that she know....except family

Now that we have broken up in the worst way ever and he is simply not there for her.

My daughter is very advance for her age...already attending PK-3 at a private school and...

She is constantly asking questions about where her dad is. I try to explain on a child level that dad isn't here right now and he will come see you soon...But now things are becoming worst he would e-mail me at first but once i told him that i would rather us only have min commmunication or make it only about our daughter he doesn't call come see her or have any involement with here......Now she is waking up with nightmares screaming for her dad...

Any tips on howI can handle this?

It's very stressful that she hasn't had any contact with him in over 6 weeks......


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Maretta - posted on 07/19/2012




Thanks ladies!!! I had log-in problems and ended up having to redo my page. But i am taking things one day at a time.... just keeping her busy and envolved. And Sarah your idea really worked--thanks I am going to sign her for gynastics on Saturday to keep her busy!!!

Ellen - posted on 07/18/2012




Hi I am sorry that you and you daughter have to go through this my daughter is 4 and about a year and a half ago her father and I seperated due to domestic violence me and my daughter both have a order of protection against him but I protected her from him so much that she only.saw him as a good dad so she for the longest time asked why doesn't her dad see her does he her and it would break my.heart IA would explain it like your dad is not feeling.well when he gets better you can see him and she would get over it quickly she barely ever askeds anymore.......just try and remember never to speak ill of him she will make her own opinion of hom

Sarah - posted on 07/18/2012




I am so sorry that your daughter has to go through this... My son only speaks with his dad every other weekend and sometimes only once a month. He is 6 this year. It hasn't gotten easier to explain to him why his dad never calls for him or wants to do anything with him. It helps to not bad mouth the father and keep them busy. Whenever he asks, I say lets go for a walk! or ride bikes! or play a game! They quickly forget what they were asking about.

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