How to get baby to go to sleep on his own?

Sarah - posted on 09/12/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I have an 11month old boy and normally I'll rock him to sleep after his night time bottle. If I put him in his bed, he just cries and won't lay down. I have heard about the cry it out method but how exactly do you do it? I feel soo bad when he cries that way that I want to rock it but I don't want to have to do that forever. I normally put him to bed at 9 or a little after and lately he has been waking up once through the night, different times, and I either have to pat his back or sometimes rock him again. What can I go to help him sleep all night? Please Help!

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Kim - posted on 09/15/2009

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It's true, the cry out method is the hardest but you will notice a difference within a couple nights....and a couple nights of lost sleep is soooo worth it when your baby starts sleeping thru the night!

Heather - posted on 09/15/2009

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I put my daughter in her bed and put on a music box that puts on lights on the wall left the room she cried for about a half hour. It seemed like forever but the next night she fell asleep in 20 and the next 10 and than 5 and now she goes straight to sleep.

Jennifer - posted on 09/15/2009

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Some kids are just more sensitive than others. My son was exactly the same as yours. It doesn't get fixed overnight. I don't believe in the "cry it out" method. One thing I have done that helped us get used to not rocking him to sleep at night was to sit in a chair in his room while he fell asleep. At 11 months that may not work because you can't really reason with a baby that age. My son is now 2 1/2 and we put him in his big boy bed and he goes right to sleep. Don't worry. It will get better.

Veronica - posted on 09/15/2009

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I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL...

YOU NEED TO STAY STRONG AND CONTINUE TRYING WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU.



IT DOES GET BETTER!!!

Octavia - posted on 09/15/2009

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Deffinately the cry method i used to sleep with my daughter all the time when she was first born then she started getting wild so i started putting her in her crib and she cried it out for 2 days and now she has no problem sleeping by her self!

Kourtney - posted on 09/14/2009

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as hard as it is i have to agree that putting them to bed and letting them cry is the easiest way. once they realize that you aren't going to give in they will simply just go to sleep and then eventually when you put them to bed they will not even cry they will just go to sleep..it is hard at first b/c every time they cry you want to fix it but they aren't hurt and they don't need anything, they are just testing you

Krysten - posted on 09/14/2009

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put a floor fan in the babies room set it on high, The sound puts them in a trance! ^_^ I have one in every bedroom at the daycare I work at, WORKS WONDERS!

User - posted on 09/14/2009

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put a piece of your or your partners clothing into the cot with baby.as well as cry it out and bedtime rountine.

Jackie - posted on 09/12/2009

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I would put him to bed the same time every night. And do it when he is drowsy. I always put on his mobile or have an aquarium in his crib and that always helps him. That usually helps. Also have a night light that helps them to go to sleep also.

Crystal - posted on 09/12/2009

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my son was the same, same age too when i seeked out a sleep constultant, i tried what she said, it didnt work for my son...after a couple more months of many awakenings i finally gave up and let him cry...it is very very hard, but it only takes a couple days and they learn....he now sleeps through the night, every once in awhile he may awake but not for long he puts himself back to sleep and thats what you want

Stephanie - posted on 09/12/2009

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I had the same problem. My husband and I would always rock our Daughter to sleep. At about 7 months, it was getting rediculous because she wouldn't co-operate and all she would want to do is get down and play.

I was totally against the cry it out method... Until I actually tried it. The first few nights were horrible. Horrible to the point of her getting so worked up that she threw up everywhere. I was talking with a public health nurse and she had told me this method.



Think of 3 phrases or sayings that you will use to put baby to bed/comfort her. When you put baby down to sleep, say these things (i.e It's time for bed, Mommy and Daddy love you, goodnight, sleep tight, sweet dreams, I'll see you in the morning etc) Pick 3 and always stick with 3.



Put baby down, say the 3 sayings and walk out right away. Set an egg timer for 10 minutes and if baby is still crying after 10 minutes, walk back into the room, lay baby back down, touch baby from head to toe softly while you say you're 3 phrases, and walk out again. Set the timer for 10 minutes again and repeat.



She had told me that if it continues on for more than 90 minutes, to give up and try again in a few weeks. She had also said that no baby has ever harmed themselves from crying, and that they're only crying for your attention. Letting baby fall asleep on his own will teach him good sleeping habits early.



Like I said, the first few nights are horrible, and I ended up crying too, but I'll tell you it was well worth it. It took about 3 nights before there was barely any whimpering, and my husband and I looked at eachother and said "What do we do now? We actually have time to ourselves"



It's such a hard thing to do, to listen to your baby cry, but I am a strong supporter of the cry it out method.



Good luck!!

Jessica - posted on 09/12/2009

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Yep they work my Bay-Bay calls it her monkey blanket [[yes it does have monkeys all over it] It doesnt match w/ aything but she loves it and sometimes i have to wiat weeks to wash it or wait till she falls asleep b/c she will NOT go to sleep w/o it LOL

Kristen - posted on 09/12/2009

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Jessica, I forgot all about sungglies! And lovies! My daughter loves her blanky and kitty.

Jessica - posted on 09/12/2009

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To be honest with you I used the cry it out method and it worked some nights but it will break your heart but if you dont put your foot down then you will be rocking him forever!!! try the night time bathing body wash made by Johnson it actually does sooth a child or i used to do oatmeal baths or you can do what i did my kids are 6 and 3 and they both got blankets when they were almost one and they still have them instead of wanting me they nopw just have to have their blanket Good luck

Kristen - posted on 09/12/2009

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To be honest, because he is basically a toddler now, it will be harder to get him to sleep on his own. It would have been much easier around 5 or 6 months when babies don't need a bottle in the middle of the night. I will just tell you what worked for me. The Ferber Method. It is a combo of soothing and crying it out. First I would recomend cutting the night bottle out. Maybe a sippy just at meals and snack time? He will most likely be switched to milk soon anyway. Try reading him a story and then singing him a song. Then say simple phrases such as, "Goodnight, I love you, see you in the morning. Mommy is going to sleep now too." Then kiss him and that's it. Then leave the room and shut the door. If he falls asleep with out crying good, but that's in a perfect world. Once he starts crying wait 5 minutes and go back and reassure him. Then close the door again. Remember this is a proccess that takes time. With my daughter it was 3 or 4 nights. But since he is older it maybe longer. Each night increase the waiting time by 5 minutes, so on the second night, make it 10 minutes intrevals before going in to sooth. NO PICKING HIM UP!! Just pat his back or booty another kiss and another "See you in the morning, mommy is going to sleep too." Eventually he will know that you aren't going anywhere.

BeautyTofly - posted on 09/12/2009

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My son Kamari is 4 months i lay him on my bed and we play for a while then he just stops and looks at me and his eyes seem to get low at this point and his out like a light .... you should try tired him out just don' let min beat you to it lol

Michelle - posted on 09/12/2009

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I did the cry out method... It took my daughter 2 days and then she was sleeping on her own!!

Karen - posted on 09/12/2009

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my sons has a bottle to go to sleep and his teeth are fine he brushes them twice a day

Jael - posted on 09/12/2009

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and bottles aren't the best thing to give a child laying down because the milk rots there teeth and ears. But at 11 months you should try starting to take the bottle away.

Kimberly - posted on 09/12/2009

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i need help with the same thing...i just play with jayden until he gets tired and i put him to bed at 8 so i try to wear him it andi put him down he makes noises then falls asleep he always has to have a bottle while falling asleep

Karen - posted on 09/12/2009

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i have had the same problem with my son (now 2 years old) i tried the Cry it out method but just couldnt do it, he was upstairs crying and i was sat downstairs crying it was horrible i just couldnt do it anymore, so i used my own way (that i used for my daughter(now 8) i'd do her bedtime routine ( bath, story then bed)) then i'd take her to bed and sit at the side of her until she fell asleep, then the night after i would do the same routine but sit on the floor at the side of her bed until she went to sleep, then the night after sit on the floor near the door until she went to sleep, and so on til i was out of the room and she would just go to sleep because she thought i was near.

i hope this helps, please let me know if you try it.

Suzanne - posted on 09/12/2009

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i know its hard...but i've had to do it and honestly it works...just lay him down in his bed and let him cry himself to sleep. After about a week he will quit crying and realize that it is bed time and crying will do him no good.

Sarah - posted on 09/12/2009

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I would love to try the cry it out method, as much as I hate to hear him cry that bad, but my boyfriend is against it and when I tell him to just let him cry it out, he refuses and goes into the room and gets him out to rock him to sleep.

Jael - posted on 09/12/2009

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The cry it out method is exactly that. You kiss him say mommy loves you but its bed time now. lay him down and leave him. he will cry himself to sleep and it will slowly but eventually get better. It won't have over night or in a few days but it works.

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