How to keep a marriage alive

Rachelle - posted on 06/08/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




What is the best way to keep my spouse and I well connected? I mean emotionally, physically and mentally. It's like we never have a conversation that dosen't involve the kids. We don't always seem to be on the same page anymore.


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Charlie - posted on 06/08/2009




oh i hear you there i LOVE my little boy but get so sick of just talking babies , i think it takes a little bit extra after you have a child but its worth it i make sure we get quality time together just us to hang out and socialise with other adults so we have something else to talk about , and SEX even if you and him are tired its definatly worth making the effort to do it , i just like to make him feel wanted and loved i know when couples drift apart after kids a lot of the times its because kids get All the attention and the couples forget about themselves , and hey i believe a happy healthy relationship between mum and dad mean happy children , and its setting a great example to your children when they see how loving and affectionate their mummies and daddies are towards each other , i certainly hope our son grows up to treat a lady the way his dad treats me and i hope he finds a lady who will treat him the way i treat his dad , all it takes is a little more work but with great results , oh also i read a pastor told his congregation to have sex every nite till they came back to church apparently everyone who did so found a closer bond had formed with their partners from it !

Kate CP - posted on 06/08/2009




Sounds like you need a date night! Hire a sitter, go out dancing or to a movie. Go see a play or visit a museum. Go to a cocktail party or something. Something not kid friendly! Also, sex is good. :)

Kristen - posted on 06/08/2009




I have not mastered that myself, but I think it is important to have a date night at least 1 time a month and do not mention the kids. I think we all get consumed with the kids and we often forget that before the kids there was an "us" and a "me." It is very frustrating! About once a week my husband and I try to have a conversation about us to see how each of us are doing and what we could do to help each other out. Also, I am a Christian... my husband and I pray together at night and I think it has really helped!

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