how to know how many children to have?

Stacey - posted on 04/25/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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i am extremely lucky to have 2 beautiful healthy girls, and i am still decieding weather or not to try again.

we (my partner and i ) are very happy with the 2 that we have but i would love to give him the son his always wanted. i no theres no guarentee that the next will be a boy but i cant help but to wonder if i will regrete not trying in the future. i would love to have a handful of kids but financially its not possible. i would love another child boy or girl but i cant decide for certain. really the question is how do you no when to stop? lol i sound so silly but its allways on my mind

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Stacey - posted on 04/25/2009

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thank you all for your thoughts, its just really hard to decided , one day its yes lets try then the next is un-deicided.

Andrea - posted on 04/25/2009

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raising children ain't easy. aside from sleepless nights and other responsibilities parenthood/motherhood can bring, you can't erase that fact that having children is financially challenging too. so it depends on you and your hubby's financial capability. if you think you can still add another baby to your brood, go ahead. only the two of you can decide about that matter. =)

User - posted on 04/25/2009

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i mean i have 3 lovley childen but money bose not buy they happens belongs they are loved clean and fed then thats all kids need not money they have to lean that money dose not buy happenes i take mine swimming onces a week and they look forward to that because we have not got a lot of money to buy them every think

Sarah - posted on 04/25/2009

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i only have the one DS i would love another, but at the moment im enjoying jake he is 6 and enjoying the money i have to spend on him i hate to think i had children and couldnt afford to care and take them anywhere.

Mary - posted on 04/25/2009

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I agree with Trudy and Manveer, you have to look at it financially at this point. We have 3 and the third was a total surprise. It did take a big chunk out of our normal spending for a while. I wouldn't change anything, but I wish we had more time to prepare. I would love to have a 4th but our checkbook won't allow it.

User - posted on 04/25/2009

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well i have got 2 girls 1 boy but would love another boy you have as many as u want its your body love no one els

Manveer - posted on 04/25/2009

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I used to feel the same way - I always wanted a really big family (but going through labour stopped all those thoughts!!)

It all depends on the both of you I guess..

We've just had a baby boy and obviously we'd like a girl next but I've said to my hubby that if the next is a boy I will only try again one more time for a girl but if the third is also a boy then that's that!! I know people who try endlessly for boys after having so many girls but it all depends on yourself.

Its horrible when you have to think financially instead of what you want!!

Trudy - posted on 04/25/2009

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u need to work out the money side of things first we have 3 and we over the moon wouldnt change a thing. we would like a 4th but it wasnt goog for my body or the budget. that question can only be answered by u and your partner. its so hard and the worst thing is that grow to quick. i hope that u sort it out

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