how to make you baby sleep by himself???

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Soky - posted on 07/25/2009

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My daughter had never once slept in her crib by herself. She would either sleep in the playpen next to our bed or sleep in our bed. Im a very light sleeper so when my husband moves around I would wake up and check to see if shes okay... shes always cuddle up next to me. As of now she is 10 months old and still sleeps next to me! I think I have a problem with her being away from me. I just want to make sure that shes always around me all the time and that shes safe with me and I dont have to get up and go to her room and check to see if shes okay... a little paranoid... yes...

Ana - posted on 07/24/2009

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I'm very happy to have some inspirational method from you mommies,i will try them all. Like we all know, it won't be easy. Thank you all.

Ashley - posted on 07/22/2009

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My son co slept until about 4 months. One day he was very squirmy and fussy in the bed. I eventually realized that he wanted to be able to move and have his own space. So we tried the crib and it wasn't eve a battle. I feel like if you try to transition them before they're ready, it'll be a battle. If you're up for it, you just have to lay them down and let them fuss for a bit. I never thought I would say that but it really seems to work. My son fuss for about 5-10 min every night, some nights worse than others. But every baby is different, I would say wait until he tells you he's ready.

Tara - posted on 07/22/2009

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With my first child I co slept sadly until he was 3 years old , It was easier just to feed him in bed, he woke up less often, which made me a happier mommy. But..... I quickly learned that its nice to have a bed to yourself, because you set them up to want to sleep with you for a lot longer than you expected them to. So with my second and third babies I made sure that we didnt recreate the sleeping habits of my first. Just make sure they are well fed, changed and kissed and lay the baby down in its crib. The baby will cry most likely because he doesnt know how to "self sooth" himself. He is used to your touch or you rocking him or you nursing/bottlefeeding him to sleep.. he needs to go to bed sleepy but still awake, he will eventually find his own self soothing technique(ie. humming to himself, or twirling his hair etc). Because if you lay him down in bed already asleep when he wakes up in the middle of the night "like we all do" you wont be there and he will cry for you. The crying himself to sleep is not cruel or mean as long as you give him the routine of bath bottle and jammies then hugs and kisses (or however u do it). And the crying... as long as your consisitant shouldnt last longer than maybe 5-7 days. It worked with my second and third children very well, and I will have to say its nice to get into bed with JUST my husband and not a bed full of little monkeys :)

Tarah - posted on 07/22/2009

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With my 5 month old i had to rock him tosleep for awhile it is so hard for them to adjust to not being next to you or in you as they were for SOOOO long.lol Theni started giving him bed times baths with J&J bed time bath..Then ihave a projector which has a thing that plays the ocean heartbeat music as soon as i turn that on he passes out or he'll watch the stuff on the ceiling from the prjector..Anyway there are a couple idea's Good luck!

Kate - posted on 07/22/2009

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I'm following this one as I need help with the same issue as well. So far my little guy screams until I either feed him to sleep or rock him to sleep and since I am breastfeeding he just wants to suck so the rocking doesnt last long so I'm not doing him or myself any favors here. He is 2 months old btw.

Theresa - posted on 07/22/2009

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At first I laid in bed with my son until he dropped asleep. After awhile I realised as soon as we lay down he dropped off to sleep.Then I began to lay him in the bed and sit beside him until he dropped off. When I realised that he stopped fussing and accepted that I was right there and dropped asleep almost immediately I would start the next step. That is, I would give him a bath put him to bed with his favourite car and stay close by so that if he cries he would see that I am not far away. Eventually after the bath he would lay in his bed and fall asleep by himself. Hope this works for you also.

Shaina - posted on 07/22/2009

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I have noticed that if you give them something to do independently like looking at a book, or putting on mellow music it will help them chill out and go to sleep. For really little children I swear by the fish aquarium that hooks to the side of the crib. It makes bubble sounds and can put me to sleep.

Tammy - posted on 07/22/2009

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My kids co slept with me while they were nursing. It was hard to get them to sleep in their own beds. For a while I put them in their bed and laid down with them until they fell asleep. After a while I started giving them a book to read/or look at themselves and left them to it. My two year old does this every night and falls asleep with his book. I go in and take it out of his bed afterward. It worked for me. Its worth a try.

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