how to trust a man

Charlotte - posted on 06/27/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




how do u trust a man ? i did not long ago find him chatin to other women on facebook flirtin and now he has not got a facebook no more but i cant seem to trust any think he does no more its rilly getin me down now i have 2 children by him is well i have not been good my self in the past i cheated on him n wish i never i regret it alot now he says hes depressed to at the mo n has been off sex for ages to i dont no wot to do x


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Jackie - posted on 06/27/2010




Definately dont trust him. Hes either creaping or working on creeping. I went through the same thing and my son got a little brother out of the situation while I was still married to the man. Needless to say we're no longer married and I'm now with the most wonderfull man I've ever met.

Shannon - posted on 06/27/2010




Maybe you should do marriage cousenling but u both need be willing to make changes to make it work. i personally haven't been through cheating but know from having other relationship problems both people have to try & be willing before any progress can be made. Best of luck

Shayna - posted on 06/27/2010




You cheating, and him flirting online are two different things. He should be the one having the 'trust' issues. I agree with trust being the most important quality in a relationship. Not all relationships are meant to be, but since he is the father of your children, I would be fighting in every way to make it work. Trust is earned through time. If you sit and talk about your feelings towards one another, and set boundaries about what is ok for you to do and not to do in your relationship, and give it time the trust should be able to grow back. Take time for each other, go on dates, and fall in love all over again. I personally have never been cheated on, or cheated on someone, so I can't say I know exactly what you're going through. I personally would never take a cheater back, that is the absolute most disrespectful thing someone can do to someone else!

Jenifer - posted on 06/27/2010




honestly trust is the most important in a relationship.... Have you tried counseling? If you guys cant work through it and learn to trust it may not work.... maybe its cause you have not been able to forgive him and i was told by my counselor that forgiveness isn't for him its for yourself so you can let go of the past..... I don't wanna say it can't be worked out cause it can be if your both willing to work on it but it takes time but it starts with forgiveness and like I said its for you your not letting him get away with it your just trying to move on with life.... hope this kinda helps

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