Hubby doesnt like me pregnant

Jade - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Has anyone else had an issue with their husbands/bf/partners not finding them attractive while they are pregnant? I dress normal and do my makeup evryday still, but my hubby just cant stand looking at my tummy and it kills any mood he gets into right away and im so horny. Any ideas to get him interested?

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Stevie - posted on 10/05/2009

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maybe keep your shirt on or if you like it you can try doggy style so he cant see the belly or maybe when its dark out and the lights are off with you in a black shirt or if you or him dont mind a little bit kinky blind fold him lol or if all that doesnt work maybe get a vibrater so you can releave your sexual stress

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Sara - posted on 10/05/2009

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I had the same problem with my husband, and it wasn't that he didn't love me or think I was beautiful he just didn't find me sexually attractive because I was pregnant. I just dealt with it, we only had sex once during my pregnancy and it killed me. So don't feel like you are alone, and once the baby is out he will want you almost immediately. Worse case scenario until then hopefully you can deal with it yourself, if you know what I mean. Good luck.

Amanda - posted on 10/05/2009

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my ex was like that and even after the baby was born he dident find me attractive i could walk aroound nacked and it would do nothing for him he couldent get passed looking at me like a mom

Lindsay - posted on 10/05/2009

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wow...I am pregnant with our second baby right now, and if my husband told me that I think I would deck him! I guess if you have to deal with it I would try some lingerie that doesn't accent your baby belly (depending on how far you are). I had some really cute lingerie when I was pregnant with my daughter that in candle light and from the front made me not look at all pregnant. Also, even thought this is probably TMI, try having sex in the spooning position, it keeps a lot of stress of your body during sex and he won't see your belly b/c he's behind you. Good luck and I wouldn't blame you if you decked him :0)

Michelle - posted on 10/05/2009

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If my husband had said that to me when I was pregnant I would have slapped him so hard his head would have spun!! I guess I'm just shocked because my husband told me i was beautiful everyday while I was expecting (I had a hard time with the weight gain). As mentioned maybe it would be easier for him to turn off the lights and find a style that works for both of you! Otherwise, you might have to solve your own problem... if you get my drift!!

Jade - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Lucy:

Has he told you this?? if so that's not nice, it comes with the territory!! i think my hubby knows i'd kill him if he didn't say i looked nice! If it's a question of sexual attraction i can understand how many men don't like the thought of having sex with a pregnant woman (for many reasons - similarly there's many men who love it!!) but the only solution i have for that is lights off and doggy style! hope that's not TMI! This is such a natural process and it's really important you feel good about yourself right now. Is it possible to ask your husband to concentrate on the things he does find attractive about you rather than focus on your belly? It sounds like he's being a bit selfish about the whole thing. It would be impossible for you to have a flat tummy and grow a baby inside you!! best of luck xxxxxxx



Yes unfortunately these are his words. Hes just used to me being really skinny since he was deployed for my first pregnancy and i lost the weight really fast afterwards.

Jennifer - posted on 10/05/2009

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I think you should try and tell him how that makes you feel! You are carrying his child the stomach will not last forever. He should LOVE the fact that you are carrying his baby. Maybe he doesn't think about the fact that you have a baby in your belly. I would try to tell how it makes you feel.

Lucy - posted on 10/05/2009

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Has he told you this?? if so that's not nice, it comes with the territory!! i think my hubby knows i'd kill him if he didn't say i looked nice! If it's a question of sexual attraction i can understand how many men don't like the thought of having sex with a pregnant woman (for many reasons - similarly there's many men who love it!!) but the only solution i have for that is lights off and doggy style! hope that's not TMI! This is such a natural process and it's really important you feel good about yourself right now. Is it possible to ask your husband to concentrate on the things he does find attractive about you rather than focus on your belly? It sounds like he's being a bit selfish about the whole thing. It would be impossible for you to have a flat tummy and grow a baby inside you!! best of luck xxxxxxx

Andrea - posted on 10/05/2009

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He will get over it. Birth is a beautiful thing. Let him know the belly does go away.

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