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Lauren - posted on 11/24/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My husband and I had our share of problems in the past 5 years we have been married and we decided to try and have another baby and now I am 7 weeks prego again and he's back to his old ways like talking down to me,telling me I'm an idiot and of course I say things back to him cause I wanna stick up for myself! We both cheated on each other he cheated on me when we were together and I left and lived with my mom and I met someone else in that time frame we were only separated for a month and I moved back in and of course stupid me I kept talking I he other guy and lost my husbands trust and now my husband keeps telling me the baby isn't his when I know 100%. It is his cause I did not sleep with anyone else in the 5. Years we were married I just kissed someone else. We did counseling but that didn't seem to help as soon as we would leave counseling he would be back to his old self! Now this morning he flipped out cause his clothes we wrinkled and started having a breakdown about everything and anything! He keeps telling me I'm still cheating on him and I'm not I stay at home go to work and that's pretty much all when I do go out it's with him or my family or his family! I don't know what to do anymore I'm so lost at what to do with his attitude! PLEASE HELP!!!! I'm losing my mind!! Hopefully u can understand this I am so upset and kinda just rambling! Also I cheated once and he did it numerous times

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Erica - posted on 11/26/2013

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I think she should not have to explain her self to him when he cheated numerous times in they both agreed together that they both would stop having contact with those people .in he is still excepting calls from a x girl on his work phone at that she the only one who should have his work number or any number for that matter he's the one who needs to explain not Lauren.i think he is sneaky in he thinks he so smart my friend had the same problem in then she saw her man in a movie line with his x girl in I was there you should have seen his face they both got beat up .my friend couldnt believe she was the one feeling guilty.but I'm not saying he's the same kind of guy I'm saying if he loves you in him both did wrong .in forgive one another then. Why is he still taking calls from this chick. Lauren needs to Love her self first before she can Love him he's driving her Crazy in hes Treating her like a door mat.he didn't like it when she went to stay with her mother in some other guy was caring for her.men don't like the taste of their own medicine. I almost agree with your mom.i know two wrongs don't make it right but I'm so sick of men dogging us when our love is so real.its time for Lauren to be about Luaren in her Husband Needs to wake the F.ck up before a man finds her in falls in love with. I hope that does not happen 5yrs is to long to give up but so is a life time with some who take things for granted .LADIES ARE WITH ME this Erica Negron 25 yrs old Married for 9yrs in together for 13yrs My heart goes out to Lauren comment from Erica Negron

Princess - posted on 11/26/2013

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hi first of all congrats for the baby.i can understand ur problem because my husband ia also like this and I know its too difficult to stay clam. my husband is having to much girlfriend in facebook and viber n whtasapp he always check my mobiles n fb but I cant able to check his becoze he always carry it with him.u know my mom tells me that if ur husnad is doing something wrong like if he cheats u then god will punish by leting u do the same thing with him so ur husband as being punished by god.so tell him that we both forget our past and start it from beginning try to forgive each other.and tell him its was ur mistake what all happen but this is his baby he must trust on this.go on dinner or in long drive n tell him that u have promised urself that u will not do such again n then if he is same then leave him alone for a while as u r pregnent may b this baby will come luckyto u both .and before leaving him tell him that u are changed trustme if he loves u then when u will deliverd bby he will cme back hope this help u

Erica - posted on 11/25/2013

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Lauren you have to take care of self before you can Help others be strong in if your husband not going to love you in respect you the way you deserve then he doesnt deserve you.good luck with your marriage. it helps to know someone understand what you are going threw

Erica - posted on 11/25/2013

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Lauren I told you people places in things she is one of the people I was talking about.you both agreed to delete those people from your Facebook in that mean know more contacting them or them contacting you.in he needs to understand that in respect your marriage.as for mom she is trying to protect you in from getting hurt I can understand that she your my in she want your family to remain one .in I do to but sometime you just need the truth no man or women has any excuse to act like that .you just a women who want her husband respect your marriage in be about his wife in that's the agreement you both have. Just some where down the line got distracted. Don't let people get in the way of your marriage.stand up for one another in by doing that he needs to stick to your agreement .whats important is that you make time for egather go out to the movies or dinner send the kids with a babysitter in if funds are low put the kids to bed in put a movie on cuddle up pop some popcorn .after that take a bubble bath together put some make up on fix your hair in let the rest be no one concern show him your wild side.but I really hope the best for you in make sure he understand the agreement you both have in stick to it .most of all treat your self to a spa or get your hair in nails done you deserve it smile prego .in I hope he changes in see what he has before its to late your beautiful Lauren he would llose a lot.but I really want both of you to work out .so let him know how you feel don't let him see you angry I know it's hard but say it in a calm way .i know you just want to curse him out but don't sometimes men get a kick out it.Next time something like that happens again let him know there won't be a next even if you know you will come back convince him enough were you almost believe it .when he see what he has to lose he will freak out.but I hope that not how it has to be in he understand you.i wrote to you something almost the same way but it got deleted my iPad froze. So if you get the message just know I'm just trying to make sure I reply back

Lauren - posted on 11/25/2013

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I left 2 times now and he knew I would come back cause I did the first time. I'm just not sure what he wants cause now he's all happy today and he seems fine. My mom told me he's a man what do u expect they all act like that. I have never found anyone who is really nice! Yes I cheated and it was the biggest mistake of mylife! :( also we both had friends of the opposite sex and we agreed that we would no longer talk to them so I blocked all there numbers blocked from Facebook and he did the same but what worries me is be has a work phone that he texts on he's not supposed to but he does cause he got a text from his one girl friend that said congrats on the baby which kinda was annoying to me cause she knows the reason why he is not allowed to talk to her and she still talks to him!!!! I get mad cause people are always trying to hurt our relationship!!!! I wish people would leave us alone and let us work on things and all his friends and my friends know the reason why and most of them understand especially my guy friends but his girl friends don't get it and it seems to me there just jealous but honestly our life isn't better than anyone else.

Erica - posted on 11/24/2013

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hang in ther Lauren your strong in you have your family's support so you will be able to make Im 25 in I've been married 13 years yes 13 years we been together sense we were 13 in we have 3 kids 2 dogs in we had rough times but .we kept fighting to make things work no one knows what the future may hold but it's worth it you guys should never give up its easier when you have support of others in you can be around positive things in people that's also helps I hope you guys can make it your family need both of you .meaning your kids that's the gift you can give them stay stong Erica . Me and my husband are routing for you both

Erica - posted on 11/24/2013

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Hi my name is Erica in I think that you both made mistakes . But in sounds like there s is something more deeper brewing between the both of you like you both are still angry with one another for cheating . I think if he cheated more than once than he is not passionate enough to forgive you when you are passionate enough to forgive him. In if He gets mad about his close being wrinkle its probley because hes still cheating or he wants to cheat. He wants to make you fill guilty for his cheating so he uses the baby as an excuse to hurt You .in tell you the baby is not his .. But if you both keep going back the pass should be the pass in life's to short you should start thinking about the baby . If he loves you enough he will change .it seems like he taking you for granted maybe if you left him for a while he will see what he what he lost he thinks he will have you forever that's why he is not worried about you .you have to let him feel how you feel in if he still the Same then he is not worth your pain.you have to show him what he can lose .dont stress about him because men like that you have to enjoy your self never let a man see you stressed even when you are hide smile it will drive himm crazy seeing that he can't hurt you .even when you can't hold it in you save it for the bathroom give him the silent treatment it will drive him crazy but don't let know your mad .for. Example I'm him babe you hungry know already ate you see your talking but not really communicating it will make him wonder.is she mad or not but never show your mad he cares he will show it .but In your case you need to really show him what he got lose . Congrads on the baby you have to do things that make you happy treat your self go shopping .I hope he see what he has before its to late at least for the baby sake .Erica:/

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