Husband driving me up the wall.

Amanda - posted on 10/20/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I feel bad being this angry but I can't help it! Our LO is 3 weeks old and acting like a newborn should which means its of crying. We are trying to work out the whole bippy thing which is trickey because I am breastfeeding and she knows what's not real but we are getting there. What is not getting there is my husband. He was great the first few days and now I want to kill him. Never gets up to help at night only gets up the complain I have to remind him to change her first if she is fussing not just hand her over to me to feed. And when I say I need a break he asks if it can wait till he is done his coffee or shower or whatever lovely thing I would like to do. The other day he took a shower changed his cloths left the house interacted with grown ups and ate two baby free hot meals at his own pace. I got to do none of those things! And I was alone with a newborn all day and most of the night. I don't want to be the crazy person I am in my head and tell him to get with the program or just go away. Because if I have to spend one nmore night watching him sleep next to me while I deal with a screaming child all night I am going to shove him out a window. Any suggestions?

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Jacklyn - posted on 10/27/2013

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Sounds familiar. My husband was super dad and even considered himself the swaddling pro, then that went downhill a few weeks later. I don't know if it was the lack of sleep, not having maternal instincts, or "male postpartum" but he had a complete breakdown. It got so bad that I went to stay with his brother's family for a weekend so he can cool down and get his act together. I basically felt abandoned with my newborn TWINS and a seven yr old...trying to juggle everything and was about to have a breakdown myself. It was until people ,like his siblings and parents, talked to him that he realized others were noticing what I had been nagging about for weeks- that he wasn't being much help! For me, it really helped having people step in and give him their insight and perspective of the situation, there truly is strength in numbers.

Also remind him that BOTH of you created this precious child and BOTH of you are responsible for raising her...you won't succeed if you don't work as a team!

Chantel - posted on 10/23/2013

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Haha! Oh, I know it's bad to laugh, but I felt the same. First week, super dad. After that, doesn't even wake up when she cries. Smothering him in his sleep seemed almost doable! But we eventually adjusted to parenthood. He gets his day, and I get mine now. Just talk to him, and tell him you need a mommy day once in a while, pump milk and go have a spa day :)

Amanda - posted on 10/22/2013

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I can't imagine the itching ! I only have like six stitches and they are driving me up the wall. I feel bad for you guys!

Sassy - posted on 10/21/2013

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I also had a c section too, and I also know its really pain full , still in some pain at times . I agree with you that's what they signed up for , but I guess they seem to forget it. I hope ur feeling better as time goes by ? It's going to be four months for me soon and it still hurts sometimes and not to mention itchy.

Analisa - posted on 10/21/2013

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Oh it irritates me watching n hearing my boyfriend snore while i get up and feed my little one.. One night he told me to get up because he has work in at 9am ... Oh im sorry? Isnt this what he signed up for? I had a unplanned c section, so not to mention im in horrible pain! C sections are nooo joke! But nope, he has work so he needs to sleep. Ohhhh!! I wanted to punch him so bad... Lol

Sassy - posted on 10/20/2013

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I know that feeling you are going through because when my little ones act up crying my husband would call me for every little thing , sometimes I feel like throwing him out the window , cause I get so angry , I'm also gad I got into this website and to have actual conversations with people

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