hw do i mke my partner undrstnd that im unhapy, nt enjoyin my pregnancy and that just need a cuddle?

Stephanie - posted on 05/02/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




my partner has never really been the affectionate type but since ive got pregnant hes got wore. im not really enjoying my pregnancy and finding it a bt difficult to deal with which i find frustrating seeing how much i wanted to have a baby in the first place. my partner dusnt seem to understnad that i feel really vunerable and lonely most of the time coz i cnt do the things that my friends are doing. most of the time id just like a cuddle. he dosent even cuddle me when im hurting wich makes me even more sad ive tried to talk to him about it but he says he's not going to change what can i do to make him understand?


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Melanie-Jane - posted on 05/02/2009




It must be really hard for you to be in that situation. although i've not been there. I didn't enjoy either of my pregnancy's although i wanted my babies. I was very uncomfortable and breathless both pregnancies and got obstetric cholistasis early on. I wanted cuddles somtimes when i felt really vulnerable but my husband read that differently if you know what i mean. He is cuddly but i wanted mostly my own space and i became very untolerating. It is true some men are not touchy feely people. i guess it is the manly front. The vulnerable and lonely thing i can relate to and my husband didn't understand that. he told me like everybody else i should be happy and enjoying pregnancy. You probably need to find a friend who has been pregnant previously to spend time with to help you through. men often don't get us ladies and our experiences. hope this helps. cheers. ox

Rhiannon - posted on 05/02/2009




Hi I was exactly the same when I was pregnant. I had a horrible pregnancy with sickness all day every day for the entire pregnancy. We had moved interstate when I got pregnant so I had no friends where we moved to so I found it very hard. I couldnt understand why I was so unhappy when all I had wanted was a baby. All I needed was some affection to make me feel better, but like Stephanie said men arent that touchy feely, which is hard when you have all these raging hormones! Hope it helps to know your not the only one xxx

Stephanie - posted on 05/02/2009




Some men are NOT very touchy feely. I know mine isn't at all. It use to bother me, but I'm pretty use to it. I know that he's a great man despite this. Odds are he's not going to change. I don't think it's a matter of him understanding in general (at least with us it wasn't), that's just who he is. He probably thinks you don't understand his need to not be so cuddly. It's hard to compromise between someone who wants to physically be close and someone who doesn't. Your baby will be here soon and you can have all that affection you're looking for. Good luck.

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