I am a little scared to be a Mom of two...

Nicole - posted on 08/18/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I must admit, I am scared to death to be a Mom of two. My son, Jackson was born in October of 2007. I am expecting my second son, Cameron, in November of 2009. Eveyone tells be that having two boys two years apart will be a blessing when they are older. They will play together and have the same group of friends with they are in school. I am worried about now!!! I just bought Jackson his potty chair and I feel a little overwhelmed as it is. In just a few short months I will be adding an infant to the mix. Goodbye to sleeping all night! Not only that, but I am scared at how Jackson will take to a new little one around the house. I recently started Jackson in daycare twice a week. I did this hoping that the enviroment will help him get used to kids, but I am still new to the whole Mommy thing. Any tips you guys have would be awesome!!! Thanks!!!

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Yhiba - posted on 08/24/2009

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All will be fine sweetie! i was in your shoes not so long ago! My first lil girl, was born in 10 Jan 2007, and my 2nd lil girl was born 31 Dec 2008, so they are 2 years apart. Looking back now, i was so scared, thinking how would i cope, and more importantly how my lil girl would feel as she was still so little, i felt like i was a bad mom for having another child so soon. but now all is well, Mya is 8 months old, and Jaya adores her. the one thing i would advise is give ur older one all the attention they need, let them have time with mommy,remember they are still babies, even though they may seem so big. i make it a point to do that, so far so good, Jaya doesnt seem to notice the attention we give Mya cause she has all of hers. Good luck!

Sinthia - posted on 08/23/2009

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Make sure to always talk to Jackson about his little brother in your belly. Tell him he is going to be such a good big brother, etc... I did that with my daughter and the transition was smooth. The only thing I struggled with was the potty training. I started when I was prego and she got the hang of it. Once her baby brother was born she totally regressed. Took about 1.5 months for her to get back on track. I took her to the store and she got to pick out big girl panties. Whn we got home I made the committment that I was going to let her only where panties. We had a few accidents but after a month she was trained. As long as you encourage Jackson and dont get frustrated with the accidents it will all work out. Being a mom of 2 is a lot of work but worth every minute.

Robin - posted on 08/23/2009

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BELIEVE ME I am right there with you! I am currently preggo with no 2 and when this one is born my kids will only be a year and four mo apart!!! Believe me I have had some melt downs because of the worry about how I will do!

Faye - posted on 08/22/2009

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i have 3 children. Two girls and a boy. My girls were fist. Twins in Jan. 2007. Then when they were only 6 months we found out we were once again expecting. Several fears ran through my head. How was I gonna raise three young kids and work to help support our family. The twins were 15 months old when my son was born. I will admit having a newborn and recovering from a c-section can make it very stressfull to care for 15 month old twins. My girls are now 2 1/2 and my son is 15 months. I would be crazy if I said it was easy. What I can say is it was worth it.

Kerri - posted on 08/21/2009

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While very rewarding, I have to admit it is not easy. I have a 16 month old and a 3 month old and I work full time so I am always trying to juggle everything. The reward I get is knowing my girls will be close and that is what I was fortunate enough to have with my twin. Good luck! I know you will be ok,

Brandi - posted on 08/21/2009

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My boys are 21 months apart,3 yrs and 16 months and I found that including my older boy in the prepartions for the new baby,letting him help set up the nursery and my mom bought him a realistic baby doll to help him understand what was going on and how to be gentle.I let him play with my prego belly lol and let him feel the baby kick.When the baby was born I would let him help by having him bring me a clean diaper and wipes,clothes and sometimes even bottles out of the fridge for me to heat up.

Dawn - posted on 08/21/2009

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I have a new baby boy who is two weeks old and my other son is 3 at the end of October, so far they get on well and my eldest is happy to help me fetch nappies, clothes etc and wants to help feed and bath baby. I think my eldest has just hit his terrible twos and he is having some tantrums but these started about 3-4 weeks before the baby was born. I still feel overwhelmed most days as my eldest is still sleeping in our bed which makes things more difficult. I don't take each day as it comes I take each hour or even minute as it comes. You never know what is going to happen next. Just relax and don't make any solid plans, you have to be very fluid and go with the flow which you probably do with one anyway.

Sara - posted on 08/21/2009

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I had my first in August 07 and just had my second in May 09...and I LOVE it! My son is old enough to know how to act with his sister and he is young enough that he won't really remember a time without his sister! I have had no jealousy issues and in all honesty this is much easier than I felt it was when I brought my son home from the hospital. I am sure that you will do great, and as everyone said, you will learn to balance everything when it happens.
Just remember to talk to your son about the baby a lot and make sure to try and include him when you are doing things with the baby. Ask him to help, explain things to him. A big thing is that you have to tell your first child that the baby needs you a lot, so I try to make sure sometimes I say out loud to my baby that her big brother needs me and she will have to wait. It doesn't matter to the baby, and it's good for the older sibling to hear that sometimes even the baby has to wait for mommy's attention!

Courtney - posted on 08/21/2009

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Well I am in a similar boat, I was pregnant at 18, just graduating high school. My first son was born December 2006 and then shortly after I was pregnant again and my second was born November 2007. I was scared because I am balancing school, work, and 2 kids as a single mother. It will be a little tough in the beginning just getting used to it, make sure you still make Jackson feel just as loved as always. Boys are aggressive so as they age they will start fighting over everything. My boys are almost 2 and almost 3 now and they are always attacking each other but at the end of the day its all hugs and kisses. Just continue being a great mom and everything will fall into place.

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Quoting Brittney:

It will just come naturally, you'll know just what to do. When my daughter was was 17 months old I had a baby, and while it was trying at times juggleing two, it was also very rewarding. I know when I was a few months out from giving birth I was feeling all sorts of emotions, but I think pregnancy does that to you. Once you have your child you put on different armor and you just do it. It truely is so fun having them close, your boys will play together and it so fun to see them interact. Mine our 2 and 3 now, I am very busy as you will be, but its very rewarding. It's only normal to feel overwhelmed with the thought of 2 little ones, but you'll do just fine. Congrats and best of luck.



I also breastfed my second one, which is very demanding. And my 17 month old tore up the house rountinely, but  we made it through. It all works out. I am now ready for my third...lol.





 

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It will just come naturally, you'll know just what to do. When my daughter was was 17 months old I had a baby, and while it was trying at times juggleing two, it was also very rewarding. I know when I was a few months out from giving birth I was feeling all sorts of emotions, but I think pregnancy does that to you. Once you have your child you put on different armor and you just do it. It truely is so fun having them close, your boys will play together and it so fun to see them interact. Mine our 2 and 3 now, I am very busy as you will be, but its very rewarding. It's only normal to feel overwhelmed with the thought of 2 little ones, but you'll do just fine. Congrats and best of luck.

Latecia - posted on 08/20/2009

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I will tell you this I have 3. A 6 year old, 23 month old and a 3 month old. To me it is harder with them far apart cause the oldest has been the only child for soooo long. My 6 year old is mean to her brother and sister. My 23 month old is so sweet to his baby sister. He did better then I thought he would. It won't be that bad. Just got to keep faith and know you CAN do it!!!

Cathy - posted on 08/20/2009

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hi i am a mum of 2 boys, they are 15 months apart, my eldest turned 3 in april and my youngest turned 2 at end of july. they can be at handfull at times but they play together loads, at first my oldest boy was a bit jealous of his brother, but i tried to include him in everythin including gettin him to get the nappies and wipes and at bath time so he felt important and that he was big boy for helping, he gradualy got used to his little brother, they love each other loads, they do fight but they always make up. i am glad i had them so close together, as they will be close

Nicole - posted on 08/20/2009

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Thanks everyone for all the encouraging words of wisdom!!! I know that I will have a lot of sopport not only from my husband and family, but from other mothers as well!!!!!!!

Melissa - posted on 08/19/2009

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The fact that you are scared is natural, that will prepare you alone but just try to relax as much as possible have prep work handled diapers/ wipes ready and available outfits ready for when diapers leak. Bottles made in advance if not breast feeding and if breast feeding try have some pumping time eachc night so people can help you. Have as much available for suprises, recieving blankets bath times, make sure everything is where you need it. Once you get into your own routine you will be set. Just enjoy those awesome babies they grow up way to fast.,

Krystle - posted on 08/19/2009

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I know just how you feel. I had my first son in Feb. 2006 and my second son in Sept. of 2007 and I was scared to death. I must admit it can get a little overwhelming at first if you don't have help so I hope you do, but once you get into a routine it gets easier. My oldest son was wonderful with the arrival of a new brother and now I don't think he even remembers not having a brother to play with. Just make sure that you still take some one on one time with your oldest son so he knows that the baby may be there but that you still love him just as much. If you have any questions or just need to talk don't be afraid to ask. I've been through what you're going though.

Teresa - posted on 08/19/2009

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i just had my second boy, my first is almost three. It's hard but not impossible the best advice i can give you is to relax make the pregnancy a fun experience for Jackson and include him in everything concerning the new baby. let him pick out clothes and toys this helps. it will be okay a little exhausting at times but thats expected. good luck lady :)

Kristi - posted on 08/19/2009

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It will be okay. I had my two oldest boys one year and one week apart. it was a bit difficult when they were younger. Now that they are 10 and 11 they do play together however just watch. Boys will be boys and when they get old enough they will get in to some knock down drag out fights. Mine do anyway. Let your son help you with the baby when it comes. For example, let him bring you a diaper or a toy for baby, sit there and let him hold baby, with help of course. Whatever you do don't get on to him for being around baby, this will make him very jealous. Good luck:)

Annie - posted on 08/18/2009

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Just as it did when you had your first child, it will all come to you and you will do awesome!! Thats just another child to adore and love!

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