I am a young mother and my daughter seems to be out of control!!! She tells lies does not listen


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Mel - posted on 07/12/2009




gosh i feel for you.i think it is just a stage. dont give her attention show her that her behavior is not affecting you in the slightest. im wodering how old she is also

Brodie - posted on 07/12/2009




Pretty sure thats just a stage, i have a 6 year old son and a 3 year old daughter, and well.... neither one of them listen, whether i yell, ask nicely, or try to bribe, lol. But only some of the time, other times they jump up at the chance to do what i need!! My son when he turned four he started lying about everything. he would come home and tell me that someone in his class was stealing his lunch and pushing him around, and i went to the school and we monitored it and Nicolas wasn't bugged by anyone, but would claim he was. Then he started lying at home about things too, he'd leave a bunch of toys out and it was instantly My sister did it. and of course i am not with his bio dad and he has been telling lies about his father and his wife. Which we obviously don't need help making things awkward and having me ask dumb ass questions like " Nicolas claims that you guys left him with people he didn't know for the whole weekend, well if that's happening then he's not going anymore!!! and then i talk to them and they reassure me they dont leave him anywhere, and then i ask him and he fesses up that he made it up. And he'll never ever give me a reason for the lying. he just says i wont lie anymore, which seems to be the biggest fib ever. lol. and my daughter tho young she likes to come out already and tell us that nic said a bad word, or nic hit her, or she just got attacked by a tiger and cannot go to bed because she will die!!!! lol. i guess the more imaginative your child is, the more outgoing their habits seem as young children...... so with Nicolas i usually talk to him and ask him why he doesnt want to do his part in this family team, we are like a baseball team. mom and dad take care of A WHOLE LOT of stuff, and his and gannie's job's are to clean up thier toys. i tell him that a team can't have dishonesty or unreliablness. then we usually do a team chant type thing and he's off behaving normal. lol. and with gannie i tell her that when she's not listening and she's screaming, she doesn't look very pretty and they everyone that loves her is watching her look like a monster instead of a princess. she wipes her eyes and smiles away..... good luck to you!!!

Carrie - posted on 07/12/2009




my 5 year old has really bad behaviour problems due to his epilepsy and medications, he also lies alot, i think the lies are just a part of growing up cause after he'll say i'm joking, not i'm lying. if you feel your not in control, i feel like that all the time. i've just done a parenting course and the first stage is praise for all good behaviour and ignor all bad behaviour, there is alot more to this and if your interested i can post some on here for you

Colleen - posted on 07/12/2009




Quoting tashia:

my 3yr old is the same way i think well hope its a stage they go through

My son is three so i am talking for children around that age. This might help you. i think a lot of it is pushing boundaries she is trying to see what she is allowed to do and want she is not allowed to do and what she can get away with. Be constant with your punishments and communicate why she isn't allowed to do what she is doing. The lies i think is a stages my son is going through that as well but i wouldn't really call it lying, i don't think he knows what a lie exactly is. More of the fact he knows he is going to get in trouble. Still lying yes but different than a child that knows they are not telling the truth ( hopefully that makes sense)

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Hey Catherine. How old is your daughter? Mine is going to be 7 and I have the same issues. She is a huge drama queen and all she does is pick fights with me. It is an ongoing battle that I have dealt with for a long time. I'm hoping that she will outgrow this soon.

How does your daughter act in public or in school if she is old enough? Mine is great with other people just not with me. Just hang in there, I'm sure there are other moms going through the same thing!

Ann - posted on 07/12/2009




My daughter was a very good lier. She is 3.5 and told her that we knew she was lying because her nose goes red when she lies and it worked. You have to start when you know they have lied about something then it'll work. As for the not listening I find that if you go up to her and explain what you want she will co-operate more than telling her from the other side of the room. She will get there just takes time and patience.

Tashia Ann - posted on 07/12/2009




my 3yr old is the same way i think well hope its a stage they go through

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