i am finding it very hard to train my kid for the potty,have u guys got any idea?

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Heather - posted on 02/10/2009

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i heard and I am just starting this myself that if they wake up in the morning with a dry diaper get them to the potty quick and let them try four 5-10 minutes and sometimes try juice or water in a cup while they try I have done this three times once with water and she has went potty once(w/o the water) I will keep trying!! Also my aunt said she had to put my cousin in oanties and let her pee in them before she understood why to use the potty! And one more.... my sister in law used ittle swimmers(i know its expensive) but she said with those and a plastice diaper cover my niece would fell the wet on her but it wasnt messy b/c they slowly leak they dont hold the pee but it has to saok through so to speak! Good luck !! Keep us posted!!

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I have three kids, one turning 4, one turning 3 and one who's one and a half. The oldest potty trained rather easily, except at night he would poop and then smear it across his bedroom walls and carpet! HE shares a room with his little brother, the one who is turning 3, who also got in on the messes. He was fully trained by age 2 and a half.

Now I've been trying to potty train the next one to no avail. He has absolutely flat out refused and whines when we tell him to sit on the potty. At this age and the fact that he knows he has to go, we decided it would be easiest to simply put undies on during the day, and during naps and sleeps he'd wear a diaper. Over the course of a week he has improved DRAMATICALLY. He goes to daycare during the day and they sit him on the potty every twenty minutes by timer. They chart it for us and yesterday he had absolutely no accidents, which is good considering he had always had accidents on previous days.

Everyone says this but it's hard to find a reward that fits your child. I've tried candy stickers blah blah blah... At daycare they do stickers, which seems to work there. At home, we give lots of positive reinforcement and praise.

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2009

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my oldest who is now 8 was very quickly trained at about 14 months my my little girl was dead set against her potty training and did not fully get dry untill around 27 months i think a child will find there own pace and there own time when they want to do i have found friends who have forced there children into it have had very very late trainers!! kids do the oposite off what you want from a very young age make her potty a everyday presence in the room and let her find her own pace she may surprise you when your not asking her does she want to go all the time she may just go off her own back!! hope this helps Michelle x

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Nicola - posted on 02/11/2009

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first of all it took me 2 year to train my little one hes now dry all day and night he just turned 3 and as been dry for a year now. as soon as he was born i was told to get him used to the potty so after a few weeks i would sit him on it as he smiled and laughed i thought it was a stupid idea but it worked. when he turned 2 he started telling me that he had wee weed in his Nappy's so i took them off and from that day he went to toilet. i did however leave it on for a few nights and he kept on coming to the gate in his room and telling me he wanted a wee so i again took it of as i was defeating the object by telling him it was OK to wee in his nappy on a night but not through day,My point is  it takes a lot of time and patients and when they are ready they will let u no like mine did.

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I just used to invite my daughter to come with me to the potty when I had to go and when she was about 2 my mom got her some panties. By 2 1/2 she asked if she could go potty. I asked her every now and then but i never made her do it. I think when they see it and are comfortable and familiar with the routine they will pick it upon their own. It was my first potty training experience though. Who knows i might have screwed it up. Haha!

Stacey - posted on 02/11/2009

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hello, if she is not interested at the moment don't push her because it will make it a big issue! She will let you know when she is ready. make it a fun thing with rewards after she has used the potty, that will hopefully make her more interested. good luck

Kymberly - posted on 02/11/2009

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Quoting Mandi:



Quoting Kymberly:




this may seem bad but it works... my 2 year old daughter is now completely potty trained.  we tried all the tricks and tips about potty training and nothing worked so my mom and my mother in law both told me to just put regular cotton panties on her and try to encourage her to get on the potty every so often. if she doesnt make it to the potty and pees in her panties she will realize that she doesnt like the wet feeling and start going on the potty.and within a week or two she was going on the potty all by her self. she does really well through out the day but now we just have to try and find a way to make her go to bed dry and wake up dry!!!










My daughter will be turning 4 next week and she has been potty trained since about 16 months. What I found worked was having a funky kids toilet seat cover on top of the regular toilet seat. Have her in cotton panites all the time, less a long trip.






If she gives any indication that she is in need of the toilet, grunt for a number two take her to the toilet right away and sit there with her and read books until she is finished. I have and still do use flushable moist wipes, they have their own little container and Abby thinks its great that she has her own toilet paper. As for at night....I really don't know how we trained her, just all of a sudden she stopped peeing at night, she even has a glass of water before bed and keeps it by her bed side.






A note to all moms, I started working with Abby when she was about 6 months old. Holding her over the potty for a number two and changing her diaper right away so she always had the dry sensation, that way when she was old enough to understand about using the potty she knew right away what an accident was cause she was used to being dry.






If you are taking along trip and she mentions that she has to pee, varying on where you are located pull over into a nearby gas station or if really needed (my daughter has a farm dad and when they are out in the combine, she pees behind a wheel or something like that) pull over and let her pee in the ditch, just make sure you have wet wipes and sanitary hands cleansers and a bag for the garbage. Some people will not agree with this but if she needs to go she needs to go and she will not understand why it is ok to pee in a diaper sometimes and not the other times, it gives them mixed messages.






wow this is pretty much exactly how my daughter learned we tried training very early (around 6 or 7 months)  and been trying ever since and then just id the panty thing and put her on the potty eery so often. my aunt (a mother of 5 all under the age of 4) suggested on long road trips to bring a potty chair along to avoid having to stop at gas stations or having them pee in a ditch cause i know my daughter refuses to do that (we have tried on several road trips:). but i guess we will have to keep working on over night training!   

Noelia - posted on 02/11/2009

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Let her get used to the potty first. Put it in the bathroom for a week (s) until she has explored it and knows what it is. Then when you are going to give her a bath (they get cold and almost every time pee in the water) tell her that first she has to sit in her potty. Do it every time and she will associate the pee feeling with the potty.



It worked with me. Just be patient... good luck

Mandi - posted on 02/11/2009

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Quoting Kymberly:



this may seem bad but it works... my 2 year old daughter is now completely potty trained.  we tried all the tricks and tips about potty training and nothing worked so my mom and my mother in law both told me to just put regular cotton panties on her and try to encourage her to get on the potty every so often. if she doesnt make it to the potty and pees in her panties she will realize that she doesnt like the wet feeling and start going on the potty.and within a week or two she was going on the potty all by her self. she does really well through out the day but now we just have to try and find a way to make her go to bed dry and wake up dry!!!






My daughter will be turning 4 next week and she has been potty trained since about 16 months. What I found worked was having a funky kids toilet seat cover on top of the regular toilet seat. Have her in cotton panites all the time, less a long trip.



If she gives any indication that she is in need of the toilet, grunt for a number two take her to the toilet right away and sit there with her and read books until she is finished. I have and still do use flushable moist wipes, they have their own little container and Abby thinks its great that she has her own toilet paper. As for at night....I really don't know how we trained her, just all of a sudden she stopped peeing at night, she even has a glass of water before bed and keeps it by her bed side.



A note to all moms, I started working with Abby when she was about 6 months old. Holding her over the potty for a number two and changing her diaper right away so she always had the dry sensation, that way when she was old enough to understand about using the potty she knew right away what an accident was cause she was used to being dry.



If you are taking along trip and she mentions that she has to pee, varying on where you are located pull over into a nearby gas station or if really needed (my daughter has a farm dad and when they are out in the combine, she pees behind a wheel or something like that) pull over and let her pee in the ditch, just make sure you have wet wipes and sanitary hands cleansers and a bag for the garbage. Some people will not agree with this but if she needs to go she needs to go and she will not understand why it is ok to pee in a diaper sometimes and not the other times, it gives them mixed messages.

Meredith - posted on 02/11/2009

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We tried potty training our eldest daughter at around 2.5. She was a late talker so we put it off until she could communicate w/ us better. Every attempt we made failed with potty training. Finally, after this past Christmas (she is 3.5 now) we buckled down one weekend and were determined to get this done for once and for all. I took the advice of my mom and put Eleanor on a potty schedule. I set the timer for 30 mins. and every 30 mins we'd tell her to go sit on the potty. I kept her potty chair out in the living room for easy access and on the first day she had two tinkle accidents but had 3 successess with the potty. The next day I set the timer again for every 30 mins. and by that evening she was telling us when she needed to go. That day she only had 1 accident. By Monday she was fully potty trained and she has done great with it thus far. We also kept a sticker chart and I drew 25 squares on it. Every 5 squares she got a mini-prize and the last sticker on her chart she got to get a big prize. Worked like a charm!

Emily - posted on 02/10/2009

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the Dr Phil method is fool proof, i have yet to meet someone who it has failed for. You have a big party all day, have the child sit on the potty all day while watching movies, tv, and drinking lots of juices/fluids. get a bettsy wettsy doll so she can help her doll go potty at the same time, buy noise makers and hats and make lots of noice every time you child needs to go potty. Don't do this party unless you are ready to through away all dipers and pullups. these send mixed messages you need to be ready to deal with full time underwear and all the accidents that go along with it.

Heather - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Kymberly:



this may seem bad but it works... my 2 year old daughter is now completely potty trained.  we tried all the tricks and tips about potty training and nothing worked so my mom and my mother in law both told me to just put regular cotton panties on her and try to encourage her to get on the potty every so often. if she doesnt make it to the potty and pees in her panties she will realize that she doesnt like the wet feeling and start going on the potty.and within a week or two she was going on the potty all by her self. she does really well through out the day but now we just have to try and find a way to make her go to bed dry and wake up dry!!!






i have the opposite problem.....my daughter goes to bed dry and wakes up dry but not going on the potty but as soon as i put her diaper back on she goes to the bathroom!! She will tell me she has to potty and be dry we run to the potty but she just sits there. One time we sat there for like 15 minutes and she kept telling me she dont like the potty and before i could get the diaper fastened she had pooed in it! : (    But I dont give her anything to drink after dinner (about 7p) we take baths and are in bed around 9-10  and I give her a sippy with 1oz milk and 3oz water. but she doesnt really drink it. she holds it like a security blanket/cup!  but she wakes up dry every morning!! If she wants her juice I will give her a drink and then distract her with a snack.  She drinks a lot of water at the babysitter because juice gives her a red hiney. So she gets plenty of fluids and we do popsicles(sugar free) before bed too its a fluid but not the same as giving a cup of water!! Good luck!

Hannah - posted on 02/10/2009

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hi there, there is not much to go on so i will let you know what happened with my son ;
he was about 2 ish. One night he stripped off and was running around naked and he sat on the potty and did a wee, well several. then recenlty he got a fever one night and took his nappy off, and he was dry in the night. not many acciendents, the point to this is he did it all his own time. unless your child is getting on to 4yrs old, i really wouldnt push it, if you start them and they are not ready, they will push against it! there is no magic steps or quick fix. just time.
i hope this helps

Kymberly - posted on 02/10/2009

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this may seem bad but it works... my 2 year old daughter is now completely potty trained.  we tried all the tricks and tips about potty training and nothing worked so my mom and my mother in law both told me to just put regular cotton panties on her and try to encourage her to get on the potty every so often. if she doesnt make it to the potty and pees in her panties she will realize that she doesnt like the wet feeling and start going on the potty.and within a week or two she was going on the potty all by her self. she does really well through out the day but now we just have to try and find a way to make her go to bed dry and wake up dry!!!

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My little boy will be 3 in March and he really has no interest in learnin to use the potty. I don't want to force him too. He like to sit on it but, ppl keep telling me to just let him want to do it on his own. I don't know what to do he has to be potty trained before he can move up into the 3 yr. old clas at daycare. I wish i could just have a maggic wand and say **proof** ur potty trained!!! LOL any ideas on what i could do??



 

Maggie - posted on 02/10/2009

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my little girl is 2 and she as only just got the swing of usin the potty she totally refused at 1st but she did it in her own time i found forcein her made it harder,

Amanda - posted on 02/10/2009

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The way I potty trained my son, and it was fun for him, was I put cheerios in the potty and told him to aim at them and shoot, but before that I would let him flush the potty because he was afraid of it at first then once he got use to the noise and watched the water go down he liked to flush the potty and then I told him how to shoot the cheerios.....for a lil girl I am not sure I am working on that problem right now myself

Gemma - posted on 02/10/2009

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try lettin  her watch u when u go to the bathroom room my son didnt really like the potty but he took straight to the toilet after seein me use it but they do get it just in there own time

Clare - posted on 02/10/2009

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Hi,my son is nearly two and had no interest in the normal potty i brought, he just cried everytime i mentioned it, i have now brought the fisher price singing potty from ebay!!! bargain!! he now spends a lot of time sittin on it fully clothed reading books, watching his fav dvd.... he will also sit on it when i ask him without a nappy.... he hasnt done anything on it yet apart from a drip!!! lol but it has made a massive improvement in his confidence... next step here we come!!!!

User - posted on 02/10/2009

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My daughter started doing it herself when she was about 20 months, I think she will let you know in her own way when she is ready, or you could use the smartie trick. When she uses the potty you can give her a smartie and praise and depending what she "did" give her one or two. Hope this has helped

Nat_n_mark - posted on 02/10/2009

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It is important for children to feel comfortable using the potty. There are a couple of things I found that helped my son. Firstly, I gave him a book to read while on the potty. Another thing that works is to give them a toy to play with. Also, it can be good to position the potty in a central place where your child doesn't feel isolated from the rest of their world.



It is best to begin with lots of frequent visits, hopefully to catch an "accident" or two. For the first few times especially when there is a success, make a fuss and let your child know that this is something you want them to do. Hopefully it won't be too long before you see some more promising results.

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