i am going to have my first child here in a couple months any advice?


Kristen - posted on 09/29/2009




keep an open mind. Don't get into a mindset of things needing to be one specific way. They probably won't be that way. Be flexible, but stand your ground against outsiders "advice". Be open to advice, but don't let people sway you just because. Get as much sleep as you can and remember that you are NOT a failure if you have trouble with things like breastfeeding. The lactation specialist can be your best friend if you have trouble, but if you choose not to or can't breastfeed, its ok. oh yeah.....and ENJOY IT WHILE IT LASTS!!! Before you know it they won't be tiny anymore


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Amber - posted on 10/01/2009




I agree with some other peoples advise one thing is that breastfeeding was very difficult for me and no one told me so I felt like it was just me, but stick with it. And I also agree that the first 6 weeks are the hardest and every day just gets better after that. There are no guidelines and all babies are different. Mine is 8 1/2 months and doesn't sleep through the night some people's babies sleep through the night right away be prepared for anything. You change wadrobes very quickly so you don't need too much of any size my baby was 5 lbs at birth so we started in premie and now at 8 months we are in 18 month clothes. Sleep deprivation mixed with hormone changes can make you a different person so try to get sleep whenever possible and accept help. Most importantly the feeling is a total euphoria that you have never experienced before the minute you have your baby.

Cristina - posted on 10/01/2009




Congratulations! :) Try to relax and rest as much as possible, the big day will take a lot out of you! There is no greater feeling then when you hold that precious gift for the first time. Drink lots of fluids, you'll be surprised how much it helps with your energy levels! I just had my first child last November and everyday has been a blessing, even the hard ones. You'll be amazed that after a night of no-sleep and a day of teething pain, one little smile from your baby will make everything else seem insignificant. Take care and happy parenting!

Nicole - posted on 10/01/2009




Take a deep breath and relax. Always trust your gut instinct! Take all advice with a grain of salt and most of all enjoy that baby, they are absolutely the most wonderful thing that will ever happen to you!

Billie-Ann - posted on 09/29/2009




Congrats!! Don't be dead set on "things are going to be this way". Have bottles & formula ready in case you can't breastfeed. Be open to suggestions and advice but always do what you feel is right. Don't be afraid to let the nurses take your baby to the hospital nursery if there is one. You need all the sleep you can get to recover because once you come home, you might get 2-3 hours of sleep at a time before the baby needs to eat again. Don't be afraid to ask questions either. Pack your hospital bag early (I learned this the hard way... lol) and put a disposable camera in the hospital bag as well. It doesn't hurt to have one in there in case you forget yours or the battery dies. Stay calm... freaking out and stressing is going to cause more problems for you and the baby. Stock up on diapers, but don't buy a bunch of newborn ones. I hope this helps. Good luck, I wish you the best!

Danelle - posted on 09/29/2009




I just had my first 6 months ago so it'd pretty fresh for me. I recently learned not all kids fit the size guidlines for buying clothes. Dont buy too much of each size! My son stops and goes. He went straight from new born to 6 monnth size then from 6 month to 18month size! lol... no joke! I never got to put any of the 12 month old stuff on him.

A bed time routine is key and should be started early.

Don't be afraid to use your instincts. You know what your baby needs and there is some bond on another level between mother and child.

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Take care of your self and your baby. SLEEP whenever you can! Chores and things can wait...Sleep is hard to come by. Remember to eat and drink lots of water and take time for the little things in life that make you feel like you not Mommy. Congrats!

Amie - posted on 09/29/2009




Listen to the midwife lol.. If u have a student midwife in there was well dont ask her if u can push etc i was so confused i was asking the student can i push she was like yes and the other midwife said no.. If u find it too painful dont b scared to ask for pain relief by the time i asked it was too late i think i would have had a better experience if i had of had a little bit of pain relief i was so stressed out from the pain.. Remember to breath and take food and water in with u if u have ur bub in the night or early morning its very hard to find something to eat lol good luck but most of all go with ur gut feelings

Chantel - posted on 09/29/2009




take lots of pictures and write everything down because you will not remember later and you wouldnt want to forget when all of those firsts happened..good luck

Carmen - posted on 09/29/2009




Be brave, don't let anyone scare you with horrible stories. Each birth is different but only you know your very own strength. Get plenty of rest during your early (latent) labor. I was very brave that I had no drugs till I was 7 cm dilated, and yet, I was tired and hungry because I had been awake for more than 40 hrs. I could have delivered without any drugs but I was convinced that I needed the rest. Practice yoga, breathing techniques and if you can consult/hire a doula- you can even ask your health insurance if they cover their cost, some cover a percentage -mine didn't but it was the best spent money ever. Relax, you'll see your baby and you'll see how soon you'll forget childbirth.

Amanda - posted on 09/29/2009




First of all, Congratulations!!!

Second, there are soooooo many things to say, but most of them can be summed up in a few sentences.

For me, the best advice that I got was to trust my instincts and to never be afraid to ask for help. Also, sleep as much as you can now, because you probably won't be getting much in a couple months. When your baby does come, sleep when your baby sleeps. Don't use their nap times to clean the house or anything else. Use it to catch up on your own sleep :) You will be able to take better care of your baby and yourself this way. And your husband and other family members will enjoy being around you much more haha. (This is all just from my experience. Apparently I'm hard to get along with when I'm tired haha)

Also, have someone around who you trust just in case you start getting frustrated with your baby. That way they can watch them for a little bit while you get out and clear your head. My mom came and stayed with us for a while until we got used to everything.

It's going to take some time to get used to everything, but it is such an amazing time!!!

The last piece of advice I have is to enjoy every moment you have with your little one, but still take some time for yourself and your husband. :) Hope this helps!!

Tammy - posted on 09/29/2009




Well, the first 6 weeks are the hardest, after that it gets alot better. One thing they don't tell you is how hard it is to breastfeed, my son and I had alot of trouble and we have only been breastfeeding exclusively since he was 9 weeks old. Alot of my friends are of the same opinion. Don't be scared of the labour, cos you will be focused on your baby and you forget about the pain quickly. Mind you, it does hurt like hell, but you get over it. Remember to breathe through the contractions, I had gas and a pethidine injection which really helped me (I was in labour for 39 hours) but something else may work for you. You will go through an absolute mountain of nappies in the first week because of all the poos!

September - posted on 09/29/2009




Congrats! Motherhood is a blessing! It changes your life, keeps you busy and full of love! Soak it all up! My husband and I have an 11 month old and it feels like just yesterday I gave birth. Time goes so fast so enjoy each and every moment! Even at 3am :) Good luck and best wishes for a great labor day :)

Lucy - posted on 09/29/2009




Have a look at the list, best one-liner advice for moms having their first child, it's under popular lists in a bar on the left hand side! It has some great tips!

Congratulations! And for now get all the rest you can, be really selfish and do stuff you won't be able to do when you have a baby!! Good luck xxx

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