i cant cope with it

Laura - posted on 08/07/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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hi i lost my little boy thomas jay when he was 3 weeks an 2 days old he was born at home on 27th may and died at home on 19th june my other little boys 1st birthday thomas was my 6th baby and i miss him so much its just so hard and plus its my birthday aswell today and just dont no what to do :-(

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Tabitha - posted on 08/07/2009

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When you're alone...talk to him as if he were there...tell him how much you love and miss him...I beleive that he's in heaven, and I'm sure he can hear you. I beleive that even though you can't see him, he's not as far away as you think. It may seem like a long time, but you will be reunited with him one day. Hang in there sweetie.

Casey - posted on 08/07/2009

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Take a breath. Let your self cry. its okay to be sad. its okay to be overwhelmed. Remember him in a special way everyday. But you have 5 other children who need their mummy. Its not fair that it happened, but it did. day by day, hour by hour. Live your life as a tribute to him, be happy and love your babies. Seek councelling and support. Ask your husband, parents, friends for help.
I'm thinking of you and your family. XOX

Melissa - posted on 08/07/2009

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Stay strong Laura for yourself as well as your other children. They are going through a tough time and probably do not understand why things in life happen like that and though it may be hard, they need you now more than ever. Your son is in a wonderful place and will always be with you! Just remember that there is a reason for this, and you might not know why today, tomorrow, or next year but God will show you the way. A friend of my family lost her daughter at 7 weeks and she found that seeking out support groups for moms that have been through the same thing helped her a lot. I know the grieving process is hard, but if you don't allow yourself to go through the pain and sadness you won't be able to move on with the rest of your life. Be patient because it will take a lot of time...don't shut yourself out, let people help and be there for you. You CAN get through this and don't forget that! Take care of yourself and I will keep you in my prayers.

Bridget - posted on 08/07/2009

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I'm crying for you and I don't even know you. I can't imagine the pain your feeling right now. Just remember you little one is in heaven watching over the rest of your family. You will never forget him and you shouldn't. Stay close to your other children and love them as much as you can. Stay strong and God bless.

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Laura hang in there life throws you curve balls and you never know whats coming..everything happens for a reason and you know he is in heaven looking down on your family.. GOD BLESS and hang in there

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