I cant get my daughter to listen! She looks at me while doing something wrong!

Lindsay - posted on 10/08/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




I just am having a herd time. She has Always been so well behaved but in just the last two months she is getting worse and worse. Nothing seems to work. I just feel like im yelling at her all day. It bumms me out!


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Katrina - posted on 10/08/2009




yes my kids r the same my 6 yr old more than the other 2 , i acually had hearing tested again but no problems, Im hoping they or she anyway gets out of it soon

Marisa - posted on 10/08/2009




my daughter just turned 3 and is in the whining about everything stage and its drving me crazy i've tryed just ignoring her and not letting her have her way all the time but its getting old quick my son is gonna be 2 oct 29th and he is getting to the pont where he test everytime i tell him no i have just been putting hm on time out when he is doing something wrong and it seems to be helping

Jessica - posted on 10/08/2009




All children test their parents. They are trying to learn your limits. The best thing to do is to keep calm and not to yell. It will only hurt her in the end. Because that is how she will end up reacting when someone is doing something she doesn't want them to. Plus Im sure it stresses you out. Kids are not perfect and they will continue to test you till youre 6 feet under. It's all part of the learning process. When she does this, calmly tell her " we don't do this" and put her in time out. The normal time limit for time is how old they are. And when time out is over, sit down and explain to her why what she did was wrong and how it affects others feelings. The best thing is to stay consistent with punishment and also your reaction. Good luck!

Brandy - posted on 10/08/2009




She is testing your reactions. She doesn't care what kind of response she gets, just that she gets one and the moer dramatic the response, the better. I would have either a time out chair or if she won't stay in that, a playpen and when she is doing this, pick her up, say time-out, put her in the designated area and do not say anything to her or respond to anything she does until the time out is over. Then sit her down and explain to her what she has done wrong and if she keeps repeating the behaviour, so do you. It shouldn't take long for her to realize that she is not going to get any kind of attention for whatever it is she is doing wrong. And when she does, she will find something else to do to make you angry and then you will have to do this again until she understands that you are not giving in, no matter what she does. Also, make sure she gets positive attention for every good thing she does so she understands that there are good and bad ways to get your attention and the good ways are much nicer.

Cleo - posted on 10/08/2009




my toddler put me through the same thing. he is totally different from my twins. yelling makes no difference with him. find punishments that will phase her. or rewards to use when she listens. ALWAYS be persistant! about this age you will learn about the expression of "picking and choosing battles" you can also try being on "her level" when she throws a fit. if she thinks she is hurting your feelings she may stop. i learned to not yell 90% of the time. As parents we will always have our days too..lol

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During the last two months has things changed in the household? This may be her way of acting out about the change b/c she may not be able to voice how she feels. My son did that when his baby sister was born 7 yrs ago. Just try to breathe and talk to her, tell her her behavior isn't acceptable and if you choose to punish, please just follow through. I hope this helps.

Christy - posted on 10/08/2009




My son is the same way. He has been this way ever since the twins were born. He was so well behaved before they came along. It might be jealousy and whatnot...but the twins are now 5 months old and his misbehaving is getting old! The only way we get any results is by constantly disciplining him. We do time outs, send him to his room, and take his toys away. Hopefully he'll get out of this funk soon.

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